"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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IM game - How to reconnect with someone from 6 months ago?

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Back in May I generated a lot of interest from an attractive divorced woman. Then I realized she seemed too full of herself (princess-type), seemed to just want an email buddy so I nexted her.

Just for the hell of it, I think I could get a face to face now that I have a different mind set just to see what happens.

I am here for guidence on what my first step should be.

We met online, emailed for over a week and IMed once when I was in a bad frame of mind.

We had emailed a few times after but I told her I didn't want a pen pal and implied "goodbye".

A little bit later she emailed back expressing a lot of interest but I deleted it and her name from my IM friends list.

To my surprise I found her username in another part of my yahoo account last night, read over the IM archive and saw the mistakes I made.

One of my problems back then was a bad neusense neighbor who had a dog chained 10 foot from my bedroom window and it barked constantly all day. Now that that problem is gone I get more sleep and think clearly.

I have a totally different mindset, too.

I would like to see if I can reconnect with this woman and possibly F close. If not, no big deal. I just want to try for it.

The only way I have of connecting with her is IM. However, what do you think I should put in my message in my approach? I doubt she is with anyone. She is isolated in a small town. Wouldn't hurt to try.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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slaog said:
Are you sure it was the barking that effected your game? Because it shouldn't. Maybe you were just more AFC then. ;)
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You have no idea how that d*mn thing turned my life outside down.:cuss:

I go to sleep at about 4 in the morning. The dog started barking as soon as they let it outside at 7 - 8 ish and it continued barking non stop until whenever they brought it back in at night.

All the while 10 feet from my house.

Most times it had no food, water or shelter. Yep, it is those type of neighbors. The wife is a liquor drinking chain smoker.

I got 3 to 4 hours a sleep every night for months. Absolutely no peace in my house during the day. It finally took a meeting between the dog pound and the Saginaw County Prosecutor to make them move the dog further way from my house. Still it didn't do much good until I went to the local bar and b*tched about it to everyone who was there.

Its now a house dog but for how long?

It messed me up badly this year. If I am going to get anywhere in my game I have to move to a better community.
 
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slaog said:
Wish her a happy new year and ask her how is she getting on.
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Thanks for the advise. I am trying out to see what happens. Yea, it has taken me this long to get around to doing it. Decided to take some time off from the Game.

She doen't seem to have been on her IM for weeks but I'll PM.
 
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Poor dog... Why blame your decision on an innocent dog? If I understand you correctly, you have not met this person "in person" or "face-to-face" probably on "pictures" online. Why bother going after a divorced woman with whom you have not met and probably remarried somebody else within the six month period? .... don't forget, she probably don't look the way she looks in the picture you saw on IM...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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amoka said:
Poor dog... Why blame your decision on an innocent dog? If I understand you correctly, you have not met this person "in person" or "face-to-face" probably on "pictures" online. Why bother going after a divorced woman with whom you have not met and probably remarried somebody else within the six month period? .... don't forget, she probably don't look the way she looks in the picture you saw on IM...
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amoka. you are correct but there is no harm in trying.

Women are not as plentiful in this area let alone places to meet them as they probably are in yours.
 
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looks like you already know what to do...

Call her, text, send her an email asks how she's doin and say you two should meet up sometime.

It's the only sure way to know if this can escalate into anything worthwhile. You are looking for a lay right? Can't sex her behind your keyboard
 
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GuanYu said:
looks like you already know what to do...

Call her, text, send her an email asks how she's doin and say you two should meet up sometime.

It's the only sure way to know if this can escalate into anything worthwhile. You are looking for a lay right? Can't sex her behind your keyboard
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Looks like will get some p*ssy soon. Shortly after I posted here I got into a chat with someone. We are meeting Saturday. :wave:
 
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