"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm exhausted . . .

AFK Protector

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I used to be an AFC....rather, oblivious.

Now I'm a DJ in training, but it's hard. I'm beginning to feel I could care less if this stuff works or not for me, but unmistakenly, it has definitely brought great success to many of you.

I am not questioning the system, but i'm questioning it's relevance in my life. I think I'm exhausted and really don't give a damn about women anymore. They've played too many games and I have yet to meet a worthy female. But I'm not doubting my own abilities. I'm going to start a self-improvement circle at my school and we'll work on our inner selves. This sh1t start s tomorrow. When I am truly happy with myself, I hope I can share what I did to you guys, as I have been searching for a while. Sammo's posts were very helpful as were Nocturnals, and many others.

but in the end, I'm the one who has to turn the key. you guys got similar feelings about this? add
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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im sorry to hear about this man, i hope you can bounce back quick..... ive seen a lot of your posts and i think your advice is really wise, but how it doesnt work for you im left clueless. and if you are as depressed as you say you are read BBB's thread about being happy in the bible. Oh and remember if it should come down to this, SUICIDE IS THE *****'S WAY OUT!!!
 

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Sometimes being a somewhat emotional AFC with semi-DJ qualities (self respect being the main one) can be better than spending your life artificially being something your not to slide your **** into a hole for 10 minutes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
I used to be an AFC....rather, oblivious.

Now I'm a DJ in training, but it's hard.
You're overwhelmed by how challenging all this DJ stuff is right? You're not the only one. I know exactly how you feel, and many others I'm sure have felt the same way too.

It seems so much easier to just fück all this DJ stuff, and just continue the way you are, but think about the long term rewards. Think how happy you will be when you are the person you so long to be.

Stuff worrying about girls. There are so many more things you could do to improve yourself that will have long term benefits. Check out this guide by Sammo; it's a good thing to help you set goals.

Just remember, little by little, one travels far. It might seem daunting at first, but do everything in little steps, and before you know it, you'll be a DJ. :cool:
 
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