Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You do not understand the concept, I know that people fake who they are and wear masks I mentioned that in this thread before you did. There is a difference between that and self preservation. They do it just to be socially acceptable, people like me do it for self preservation because if we don't we are as good as dead.Street_Fighter said:I understand the concept just fine,though you actualy are no different from anyone else.EVERYONE does what you do to some extent,you seem to be inexperianced in the concept of all of it.It's all in the social mix of things..but for some reason you decide to to label it something else.You would not be aware of empathy in the first place without a conscience allowing you to be reconise of it..plain and simple.
NickBe said:No point explaining it to you, you lack the ability to comprehend such a complex issue. I recommend you read about sociopathic personalities instead of trying to dispute a centuries worth of psychological studies.
NickBe said:What you in all your wisdom are suggesting is that your opinion is more accurate than that of hundred of thousands of well educated, professional psychiatrists. Talk about a 'Grandiose Sense of Self' are you sure your not a sociopath?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
of course you care..otherwise you would've never even tried to explain the differences.NickBe said:Is that all you are trying to say? Why not say that from the start then? if thats all you think I couldn't care less about your opinion. You have no idea what a sociopath is except what you read in books like American Psycho. You are right I am not that guy.
What a waste of time...
I've seen guys with more recent join dates posting more useful information.Dongfu said:You can see my join date by my screen name genius.
You give yourself way too much credit; what an ego.Dongfu said:Were you personally offended by my response?
Like I said, there's newer members posting with a bit more insight than you. Actually, one has already posted in this thread. Even with the flack he's getting, I have read a few of his posts which were actually insightful.Dongfu said:In other words, what are you trying to prove? That you know more than me because I'm new to a forum?![]()
Sorry, the things that I write outside of this forum is only for published research and journals. I don't have the luxury of being able to write complete works and just give it away, my grant providers wouldn't be happy with that.Dongfu said:Why dont you write a book and give it to me, and then I'll have a little more to judge you by.
This coming from an emo?Dongfu said:I enjoy your posts, but I had no idea you were so sensitive.![]()
Once again, you prove that you're not new here; you're extremely naive.Dongfu said:Maybe you ought to start a new post like this one and share with us whats really going on.![]()
NickBe said:I was intrigued when I thought you had some intelligence now that I see your are simply a black and whit guy I don't care.
Last post in this thread.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
also glamourized in the popular book and movie,American Psycho...NickBe said:Is that all you are trying to say? Why not say that from the start then? if thats all you think I couldn't care less about your opinion. You have no idea what a sociopath is except what you read in books like American Psycho. You are right I am not that guy.
What a waste of time...
Francisco d'Anconia said:I've seen guys with more recent join dates posting more useful information.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Study on pick-up lines...
Male faith in racy chat-up lines misplaced, study says.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Somebody should....
I was out today with some friends and we started playing a game called "Somebody should..." It's basically a rant about things in general that it would be great if somebody did something to help fix the problem (or at least make it easier to deal with).
Francisco d'Anconia said:"Somebody should create a place where only single people without young children could hang out and meet."
Francisco d'Anconia said:"Somebody should tell women that although they may be comfortable, flip-flops aren't sexy."
Francisco d'Anconia said:"Sombody should change the topic of what somebody should do about flip-flops."
And more studies. Master Francisco likes studies, although he hasnt really done the researchFrancisco d'Anconia said:"Someone should tell women that if they must bring a handbag or purse on a date, they should also have some money in it."
Francisco d'Anconia said:Do 'Neg Hits' work for you and how old are you.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hey guys, I've got a new groupie!!! :cheer:Dongfu said:Okay, lets look at some of your useful posts.
Just consider it the SoSuave Redemption.Adrian said:Holy **** dude I thought you were banned! Good to see you're still here lol :rockon:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.