"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

I'm done with monogany

L

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
For the foreseeable future, anyway.

Last night I went out with my gf and all night she was moody and flighty and refused to communicate and changed her mind about what she wanted to do maybe 9 or 10 times.

Finally, it dawned on me: I don't need this bullshyt. I'm a well-off, reasonably handmose 23-year old guy. I shouldn't be doing anything that makes me unhappy.

It's like Epicurus said: the wise man seeks happiness and avoids unnecessary pain. Yoking myself to any one girl at this point can only produce unnecessary pain with no increase in happiness. So the next time I see her it's dumpsville for the gf and on to a better life.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

O

oakraiderz2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2002
Messages
4,626
Reaction score
28
Age
40
Location
Colorado
Leporello said:
It's like Epicurus said: the wise man seeks happiness and avoids unnecessary pain. Yoking myself to any one girl at this point can only produce unnecessary pain with no increase in happiness. So the next time I see her it's dumpsville for the gf and on to a better life.
Click to expand...
So youre going to dump her because its that time of the month? It seems a bit shallow, perhaps its been something building. What you should have done is taken her ass home and left. It doesnt seem like shes causin you pain, she just seems to have irritated you. If she causes you so much pain you would have broken up with her before.
 
L

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
oakraiderz2 said:
So youre going to dump her because its that time of the month? It seems a bit shallow, perhaps its been something building. What you should have done is taken her ass home and left. It doesnt seem like shes causin you pain, she just seems to have irritated you. If she causes you so much pain you would have broken up with her before.
Click to expand...
Well it's a little more complicated. She's been pushing for the relationship to get more serious (which is totally out of the question) and her flightiness has just been getting worse and worse in the five months we've been going out.
 
P

pLaYtHiNg

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 30, 2009
Messages
336
Reaction score
5
If she wants to get more serious and you're not ready then I think you're making the right move by breaking up with her. I just hope you do so in a gentle manner, even though you and she are clearly frustrated with each other.

Do you ever watch Caesar Milan? (The Dog Whisperer)? So many times he has said that dogs, (in this case, your girlfriend) take their cues from their masters (you). Maybe your (I'm guessing subconscious) doubts are exasperating her flightiness and need for more commitment. Just a thought. Sorry about the dog analogy but I figure it's something easily searched if you want to know more of what I'm talking about.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

L

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
M

Mavrick

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 1, 2008
Messages
902
Reaction score
43
Dude, you're only 22. You should be hitting it and quiting it as much as possible. There is absolutely no reason for you to be in a monogamous relationship. None!

Right now you should be having the time of your life because when you get my age you will see exactly why. You really should be playing the field. If you had plenty of women chasing you, the LAST thing you would ever think of is a monogamous relationship because you'd be to worried about not having to get with all the ladies you meet when you're out partying with your buddies.

Don't waste your time at this age to be in a relationship. Hit it! Quit it!
 
D

Dr.Gonzo

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 15, 2009
Messages
41
Reaction score
0
Location
The town that lost the War of the Roses
Well I would have a talk with her about the relationship before making any rash decisions. If your not ready then tell her and see what happens, don't just assume she's well into the serious relationship as women often change their minds. Maryland is better than Virginia anyways so perhaps if you lived there then there wouldn't be any problems, lol jking
 
L

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
Dr.Gonzo said:
Well I would have a talk with her before making any rash decisions. Maryland is better than Virginia anyways so perhaps if you lived there then there wouldn't be any problems, lol jking
Click to expand...
VN is short for Vietnam
 
A

Avn_0903

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2007
Messages
85
Reaction score
1
R u VNmese? Me 2. I assume the girl u r going to dump is VNmese as well?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

L

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
Avn_0903 said:
R u VNmese? Me 2. I assume the girl u r going to dump is VNmese as well?
Click to expand...
No I'm not Vnese, i'm just living and working here for 18 months (7 months to go). The girl is Vnese though.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top