"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For the foreseeable future, anyway.

Last night I went out with my gf and all night she was moody and flighty and refused to communicate and changed her mind about what she wanted to do maybe 9 or 10 times.

Finally, it dawned on me: I don't need this bullshyt. I'm a well-off, reasonably handmose 23-year old guy. I shouldn't be doing anything that makes me unhappy.

It's like Epicurus said: the wise man seeks happiness and avoids unnecessary pain. Yoking myself to any one girl at this point can only produce unnecessary pain with no increase in happiness. So the next time I see her it's dumpsville for the gf and on to a better life.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Leporello said:
It's like Epicurus said: the wise man seeks happiness and avoids unnecessary pain. Yoking myself to any one girl at this point can only produce unnecessary pain with no increase in happiness. So the next time I see her it's dumpsville for the gf and on to a better life.
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So youre going to dump her because its that time of the month? It seems a bit shallow, perhaps its been something building. What you should have done is taken her ass home and left. It doesnt seem like shes causin you pain, she just seems to have irritated you. If she causes you so much pain you would have broken up with her before.
 
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So youre going to dump her because its that time of the month? It seems a bit shallow, perhaps its been something building. What you should have done is taken her ass home and left. It doesnt seem like shes causin you pain, she just seems to have irritated you. If she causes you so much pain you would have broken up with her before.
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Well it's a little more complicated. She's been pushing for the relationship to get more serious (which is totally out of the question) and her flightiness has just been getting worse and worse in the five months we've been going out.
 
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If she wants to get more serious and you're not ready then I think you're making the right move by breaking up with her. I just hope you do so in a gentle manner, even though you and she are clearly frustrated with each other.

Do you ever watch Caesar Milan? (The Dog Whisperer)? So many times he has said that dogs, (in this case, your girlfriend) take their cues from their masters (you). Maybe your (I'm guessing subconscious) doubts are exasperating her flightiness and need for more commitment. Just a thought. Sorry about the dog analogy but I figure it's something easily searched if you want to know more of what I'm talking about.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dude, you're only 22. You should be hitting it and quiting it as much as possible. There is absolutely no reason for you to be in a monogamous relationship. None!

Right now you should be having the time of your life because when you get my age you will see exactly why. You really should be playing the field. If you had plenty of women chasing you, the LAST thing you would ever think of is a monogamous relationship because you'd be to worried about not having to get with all the ladies you meet when you're out partying with your buddies.

Don't waste your time at this age to be in a relationship. Hit it! Quit it!
 
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Well I would have a talk with her about the relationship before making any rash decisions. If your not ready then tell her and see what happens, don't just assume she's well into the serious relationship as women often change their minds. Maryland is better than Virginia anyways so perhaps if you lived there then there wouldn't be any problems, lol jking
 
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Well I would have a talk with her before making any rash decisions. Maryland is better than Virginia anyways so perhaps if you lived there then there wouldn't be any problems, lol jking
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VN is short for Vietnam
 
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R u VNmese? Me 2. I assume the girl u r going to dump is VNmese as well?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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R u VNmese? Me 2. I assume the girl u r going to dump is VNmese as well?
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No I'm not Vnese, i'm just living and working here for 18 months (7 months to go). The girl is Vnese though.
 
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