"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"I'm Bored"

lloyd_bank$

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Little background - A girl from work (I know what everyone says about girls at work, but it's just a part-time job while I'm a student), have got to know her quite well now. She has a boyfriend of about 2 years, it's fairly serious - they gonna get a house together in the near future.
This girl is really hot, but a little weird. She constantly talks about herself, and mentions her boyfriend quite a lot. At first, I knew there was no chance, so I stopped myself from becoming emotionally attached to her. Basically just acting like a friend to her. I try and practice my ****y and funny on her and it gets a good response - she hits me on the arm, says 'I'm mean', etc.
Recently, she has got quite touchy feely with me at work - askin me for hugs and stuff, while we in the office. She constantly txts me and calls me quite often now, especially after a nite out.
Still I thought nothing of this, and wasn't really interested anyway (she's quite emotionally unstable). Then, the other day, she comes in with a hand-made christmas card, and a box of chocolates for me. Plus other times she has gone out for lunch or whatever, she has brought me back small gifts. Again, it still seems she's just doing this in a friendly way (she has problems with keeping friends).

But suddenly, because we spend so much time together at work, we have a lot of fun, I've started to think about her a lot more. I'm really trying hard to fight the urge to think of her "that way", but she's just so goddamn hot!!

Anyway, the other day, we went out to buy a sandwich for lunch, and she wanted to get a cd. While we were walking back to work, after 40 mins or so, she suddenly just says "I'm bored"!
I've heard comments before that a girl saying this means she's bored of waiting for u to make a move. She can't have really just been bored, cos we were just walking from the shop back to work!! I thought this was strange, as she has never shown any romantic interest in me - she just really seems to like me as a friend. We have been in a club together a few times before, still no signs of romantic interest, except some hand holding.

To be fair, if this was any other girl, I would think that she was interested in me. But I don't get that vibe from her. Like I said she seems to have trouble getting and keeping friends, and i think that's all she wants me to be, and so do I.
But the "I'm bored" comment baffled me, anyone have any ideas or thoughts?
thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sapphire

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I think what it means is that she is bored with her "borefriend" and is waiting for you to ask her out and relieve her from her boredom.
 

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till no signs of romantic interest, except some hand holding.
am i the only one who finds something wrong with this statement.

Dude, its right in front of your eyes.
 

DeathDealer

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Some girls do this, put out "buy signals" while they are with their boyfriend they are thinking of dumping or whatnot.

You also said she was emotionally unstable, etc.

I agree with someone of you on trying to make a move and see what happens or see what position you are in whether : boyfriend potential or cuddle b1tch (cuddle b1tches provide all the comfort of a boyfriend without the sex part)

Whatever you do, protect your heart.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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thefonz

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am i the only one who finds something wrong with this statement.

Dude, its right in front of your eyes. [/B]
You ain't the only one......she gives me hugs in the office, she brings me handmaid christmas presents, she texts me in the evenings, she tries to hold my hand, she spends lots of time with me at work..........*slaps lloyd across face* GET IT TOGETHER MAN. SHE WANTS YOUR MEAT INSIDE HER!!!
 
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