I've been going to the tanning bed for the last two weeks. On two occasions there has been this really cute girl working there. She has shown the clearest signs of interest toward me that I have ever seen from a chick. I mean there was no doubt at all. I did fine in making eye contact and smiling but I couldn't do anything beyond that like say something to her or make any other kind of move. I really need to take some action before she starts thinking I'm not interested in her. This seems to be a sure thing if I could just handle the situation properly and do something. Any ideas on how I should go about this next time I see her?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I'm Blowing Opportunities Right and Left
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Hmmm, why do people get tans? Ahhhh, to look good.... Hmmmm, where do people who look good usually go? Better yet, where do they usually go together to show off their tans? Hmmmm... Maybe the two of you could show off your tans together!!!!
chancer
Senior Don Juan
You're right, you need to take action... The bottom line is that you have to be comfortable enough to be who you are and ask what you want, without fear. Ok, she obviously caught your eye... what else do you want to know about her? I'm sometimes hesitant or afraid of asking a questions, but If i don't talk to her I lose. Suprisingly, no matter how bad I think my question may be, it's NEVER been the case.
Anyway, like Francisco d'Anconia says, go to the beach! pool! whatever...
Anyway, like Francisco d'Anconia says, go to the beach! pool! whatever...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Here's a guy that gets it.chancer said:
Hell do anything, clubbing, whatever. You have something in common, use that as a topic when you approach. JUST STOP PUTTING IT OFF! :woo: