I know i dont make awesome conversation with women, but i'm working on it. Plus i talk to guys all the time and they think i'm prety cool, but to the main point. I'm having trouble being part of a group conversation. I can walk up to a bunch of friends with HBs, and be totally ignored. Or i can be having a 1 on 1 conversation with an HB and her friend comes by and i get totally left out. Do you guys have any advice?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm Being left out in Group conversations. Any advice?
- Thread starter Rint
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Phazuka
Don Juan
Be the one to instigate the conversation with the 3rd party. If you're 1 on 1 with some girl and her friend comes by, be the first to greet her GF and start the conversation with her. If you walk up to a bunch of guys with HB's, start talking to one of the guys GF's casually...introduce yourself to one person first, then introduce yourself to the rest.
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
What I like to do, is focus on her friends instead of her, then go back to her occasionally. Make fun of her at the same time by saying "I bet -xyz friend- is alot better at _____ than you." or tell her how much cooler her friends are than her, playfully. Or maybe ask her friends to tell you an embarassing story about her. Just mix it up, you know.
dynamicallyidle
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i've been in this situation before, and it is NOT a problem. don't be self conscious about it.Rint said:I know i dont make awesome conversation with women, but i'm working on it. Plus i talk to guys all the time and they think i'm prety cool, but to the main point. I'm having trouble being part of a group conversation. I can walk up to a bunch of friends with HBs, and be totally ignored. Or i can be having a 1 on 1 conversation with an HB and her friend comes by and i get totally left out. Do you guys have any advice?
sometimes during the course of a group convo, they'll switch to a topic with which you have no familiarity. don't try too hard to get involved, or you will look desperate. just sit back and wait for the right time to jump in.
you can jump in with a question, a change of topic, teasing someone.
but no matter what, don't feel like you have to have the thunder at all times, or you WILL look pathetic.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
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Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
afrojiggles
Don Juan
:kick:Themanthatcan said:What I like to do, is focus on her friends instead of her, then go back to her occasionally. Make fun of her at the same time by saying "I bet -xyz friend- is alot better at _____ than you." or tell her how much cooler her friends are than her, playfully. Or maybe ask her friends to tell you an embarassing story about her. Just mix it up, you know.
Full Throttle
Banned
A little trick I like to use is to go into the group, and then spit in all of their faces. It's a good social lubricant and really breaks the ice nicely. Start at the person to the left then work your way to the right.
This site is getting so many trolls now.Full Throttle said:A little trick I like to use is to go into the group, and then spit in all of their faces. It's a good social lubricant and really breaks the ice nicely. Start at the person to the left then work your way to the right.
Or maybe it's just the same, really sad ones with different names.
Full Throttle
Banned
I'm not trolling. I'm addressing these foolish, petty questions that people helplessly can't figure out themselves. Did you catch the social lubricant pun?Lust said:This site is getting so many trolls now.
Or maybe it's just the same, really sad ones with different names.
Maybe it isn't obvious to some people o great one. If u dont have any advice dont say anything go waste ur time doing something else.Full Throttle said:I'm not trolling. I'm addressing these foolish, petty questions that people helplessly can't figure out themselves. Did you catch the social lubricant pun?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.