"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm back! Oh yeah, and did I f**k up?

TheTrimReaper

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Hey all. You might remember me from a few years ago. I was in an LTR with an HB, who I got utilizing my eroded-as-you-will-soon-see DJ skills, but it ended a few months ago. A correlation?

Now I'm trying to get my back on track. My skills are gone, believe me! So I'm gonna be seeking advice from you guys for a bit.

The new girl:
I met her at work. Sunday night we went out on an "action date"-our third date counting my first lunch invitation.
She informed me she would be back at the office on Monday and Tuesday. I think "not the best situation" for an out-of-practice Trim, but what could I do?

So on Monday, she invites me out to lunch. It's good. I tease her a bit. Sympathize a bit. It ended well enough. Kissed good bye.

Then on Tuesday, things seemed tougher. I felt strange seeing her a third day straight, so I tried to not be around. However, there was a work meeting, so I had to be there. She ended up being there, too.

Now my questions to you.
From what you've read, did I f**ck up? And what, if not everything, did I do wrong.

She hasn't called back. What is your take on it? She got the job and is busy? She is s**t testing me? Did I come across as disrespectful and turn her off? She initiated the last date and paid, so is she testing my interest to see if I call regardless of her words?

What should I do at this point? Call back? Wait (I'm guessing forever) for her call? Call back (and probably get the answering machine) bring up my comment and tell her how that totally came out wrong and seemed disrespectful and/or pining, then pine for another date on the machine? :rolleyes:

Thanks ahead for your help and don't worry about being gentle (cause I know you won't!):D
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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who I got utilizing my eroded-as-you-will-soon-see DJ skills, but it ended a few months ago. A correlation?
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make it a INNER thing..a permenent fixture in who you are
 

TheTrimReaper

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make it a INNER thing..a permenent fixture in who you are
Think nothing of it. Life goes on.
Thanks guys, but I guess I'm looking for something more specific to this situation. Docs, do you mean just forget about it and Next her?
 
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