"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm an idiot...

MilanoRedDC5

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Alright, I'm an idiot. I just haven't worked any DJ on this girl.

I did well on our first date. I took her to lunch, we stayed a while... Had a great conversation, learned alot about one another.

Date 2 - Took her to an extremely nice restraunt where I continued to **** things up! I never failed to apologize for stupid things and I didn't help out our waiter when he knocked over a shelf of glasses (hard to explain.)

Well needless to say I did a ****ty job however I'm taking her out this thursday.

Any reccomendations and do you think that it's salvageable?

-Gary
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You are trying to hard kid!!! Relax!
 
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MilanoRedDC5 said:
Trying to hard...

This is all part of the game, isn't it?
When we are too calculating in what we say we usually stumble --- and apologize too much because it didn't come out as planned! Just do a fun activity where talking and planning what to say is not the main activity! Then you go with the flow!!
 

MilanoRedDC5

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Easier said than done... None the less, you're right.

So thursday, six flags over TX. Some childish play if nothing else, do I invite her to the apt afterwards?

NOTE: I ****ed up royaly on the 2nd date. When I offered for her to come to my place I said, "I don't want this to come off as akward being that you barely know me, but we could head to my place." She replied with that's not akward that sounds great!

I just feel like I've screwed this all up.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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So did you take her to your place on the 2nd date or not? It sounds like things are working out fine, dont be too hard on yourself. Stop apoligizing for the little things, dont invalidate yourself either. She has to earn your respect and affection, remember that.

Spend a little time chatting with her on the phone, tell her about your plans to go to six flags and to take her with you. Tell her youre all about having an amazing time.
 

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Sounds good...

When should I call and follow up on thursdays date?

NOTE: Forgot to mention, I text msg'd her over the weekend and said, "Hey babe, I hope your weekend is going well!" She replied with, "It is, you too!."

Should I have refrained from texting her?
 

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MilanoRedDC5 said:
Some childish play if nothing else, do I invite her to the apt afterwards?
Again, stop planning the future with her. Take it easy. If the mood's right, you'll know when to ask the right questions.
 

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Sounds like you are trying to impress her. She should be the one trying to impress you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey Bro, I would not pay too much for her attention before getting some Pu**y. If you do that to every girl you meet up with, you might end up having your account in red.
Good try though.
 

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Dude, chill out. It's just a girl. Just have fun together and take her home. Done deal.
 

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its all in your attitude!! if you have a laid back, confident attitude then you naturally will become the prize. just sit back and enjoy the girl by having fun with her and teasing her etc..
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Cod3r

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You've taken her to a really nice restaurant and now she gets to go to six flags ??


Sooo how was the pvssy ??


-Cod3r
 
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