"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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I'm an idiot, Advice....please!

Don Juanabbe

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Awhile back, I was getting serious interest from this girl that I had just met at a bar. Serious "f**k me" eyes. About 23, so fairly young. I'd talked to her a little here and there, but maybe played it too cool. So I asked for her number, but she wouldn't give me it, so I was like, "Next". I continued on like I didn't care. Saw her around the place whenever I went in, but she was acting in this completely aloof manner, like she wasn't interested.

Fast forward 3 weeks. I'm at this same bar, and she's making serious eye contact with me again. I'm caught off guard here, and a little drunk. So I'm getting ready to leave, because I'd decided I had 'nexted' her, and didn't want to pursue it after not gettin the Phone #. I had to be up early in the morning. I pay my tab, and I'm ready to walk out, and she catches me when I'm turning for the door, and asks if I wanted to go out for a drink with her that night. I was a little surprised to say the least. Unfortunately, I goofed up, played it a little too cool, and said I'd love to, but I had to be up for work early (which I did). I screwed up not asking for a raincheck or her phone number.

Fast forward 1 week. She's all cold again. I approach her, and ask her if she wanted to go get a drink up the road, just her and me, an almost exact reversal of the situation. Well. She answered me with a "no thanks", with total hostility, totally *****y with me. I said, "Are you sure, I feel bad that I couldn't join you last week when you asked, so I'd like to make it up to you." She answers with real hostility and anger in her voice, "NO THANK YOU, I DON'T THINK SO." So I just shrugged and said alright and left.

WTF? Should I just brush this flake aside, I mean why all the anger? What could've happened in one week that would turn her like this? Is this like that old adage, "There's nothing quite like a woman scorned?" Should I try to DJ this one? Because, frankly, I'm intrigued. And if so, how? Any suggestions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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she aint worth it

dont even bother with her...she is emotionally unstable...one day wanting to go out with you and the next not...fVck that fake azz biotch....next time she asks you ..say youve got better things to do...and thats it...dont say youve got better things to do than her....jsut say youve got better things to do...but thanks...and thats it...
 

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clear case of pmt
 

DJ_Dork

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Sounds like a barfly! Go to another bar fool!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I bet she was really attractive, right? Almost 100% of the time when I blow off attractive women who know they're hot they hate me for it.
 
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