"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
'Im all in this by myself'
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
On the other hand, if you play it like you're the only one you can entirely trust, it can be a good move. You wont go through many troubles of people backstabbing you, etc. and you have to trust yourself before you can trust others anyway.
The_Becoming
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In todays age it's easy to think the only was to go is to look out for #1 -but when you see people at the extremes of life -as in life or death situations -what really matters is their relationships with others and with God... that's just my observation.
You don't have to blindly trust everyone (especially women you're dating) but trusting people and being a part of something greater than yourself with them is what makes life worth living.
Someone great once said "To believe all men honest is foolish. To believe no men honest is something much, much worse."
Devil_In_Disguise
Don Juan
A human society is one in which each man holds as an absolute: that every man is an end in himself, and that other men are not his pawns, nor is he theirs.
Or, in the words of John Galt,
"I swear -- by my life and by my love of it -- that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine."
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well if you want to be selfish and never have to ask help from anyone. Great idea.Originally posted by bob246
Is that the right mentality to have? 'Im all in this by myself, fuk everyone else'
This is got nothing to do with girls just asking if this is a good mentality to have in life.
Don't come crying to me when your leg is broken and you need help.
No, it is not a good mentality to have. The "fuk everyone else" attitude will leave you lonely and is just a defense mechanism from feeling and thinking properly. Just "fuk" the people who don't deserve your friendship and trust. Sincere, innocent people don't deserve it.Originally posted by bob246
Is that the right mentality to have? 'Im all in this by myself, fuk everyone else'
This is got nothing to do with girls just asking if this is a good mentality to have in life.
diplomatic_lie
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People have funny habits. You can ask them for help, and in return you help them. But very few, if any, will stick by you when things go completely downhill. And if they do, its usually because they're worse off than you.
My opinion, take it as that, is simple. Help other people, extend a neighbourly hand, but always remember that the bottom line is YOU.
Blue Phoenix
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Agreed.Originally posted by romangod
No, it is not a good mentality to have. The "fuk everyone else" attitude will leave you lonely and is just a defense mechanism from feeling and thinking properly. Just "fuk" the people who don't deserve your friendship and trust. Sincere, innocent people don't deserve it.
I have this "all by myself" attitude, but If there's someone needing help I usually help. You never know when you'll need some, and it's a good way to start new friendships.
You can be "all by yourself" without being arrogant or selfish. Otherwise you'll end up all alone.
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That's the way I like to look at it:
This is MY story.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.