"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm a "weird" guy

we all eat food

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Most people think of me as weird or awkward, but i just have a really imaginative mind and thought process, girls tell me that im weird and awkward or just crazy in wild. So to girls, is that a bad thing, id rather be that then boring and everyone else.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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foomee

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Awkward and Weird = bad
Crazy and Wild = good

Find out what makes girls call you awkward and weird and get rid of that. Keep the crazy though.
 

thursday

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depends

some girls really dig that, but only if you are good looking.

however, it's not too difficult to convert weird and awkward into interesting, and mysterious.. same thing really just with more confidence..
 

The Juan and only

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A quirky personality can be a good thing, but I get the impression that you also harbor a trace of immaturity, perhaps deliberately trying to be outspoken and different ("not boring like normal people") at totally inappropriate times, or with a certain lack of finesse. Don't worry, you'll probably calm down a bit as you get older.

And that wasn't meant to be condescending, those are just my thoughts.
 

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Works for me - You do need to refine your attitude so that you ARE original and not boring. Guaranteed that the girls will eat it up if you are doing your part right and being natural and honest with who you really are.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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