"I'm a jerk, forgive me"

[randomshinichi]

Background: met this girl a couple years ago. She liked me, I refused (more like just too dense to get it). We've remained in sporadic contact since.

So after calling out a girl on her not replying to my texts and failing to reply to my letter (an idea that she originally brought up), I promptly got one missed call and one text. I replied to the latter and implied that I forgave her ("Don't do this again. Goodnight"). I sent exactly one message, and didn't bother with her reply.

That would be great if that were the end of the matter, though. Today I just received a message on Facebook. It goes a little like this (paraphrased):

Hey, the truth is I am a jerk. I tend to neglect friends when I fall in love, and I'm really sorry... I'm a selfish ***** and I hope you'll forgive this selfish little *****.

I didn't get your sms, though, otherwise I would have replied.

I'm thinking of not replying to this message, because this should be the definition of a **** test. What it's supposed to test, I'm not quite sure, but I hope you guys can clear this up for me. Thanks.

EDIT: Also, should I call her out on this or just leave it alone?

 

[Alle_Gory]

I suggest this as your entire message back:

"OK, you're forgiven"

 

[Evzone]

Yeah I agree with Alle_Gory.

It depends on what you want to do. Do you want to pursue something with this girl? If not, no need to be un-civil, just don't chat with her.

 

[randomshinichi]

Well yeah, I guess I do want to pursue her after all, otherwise I wouldn't have called her out on not replying to my texts and letter. I copied your answer verbatim, Alle Gory.

On second thought, calling her out might seem like a good idea, but what if she's truly sorry? Regardless of whether she did get my texts or not, I might as well ignore that line, because I've already forgiven her.

In this case, calling her out on this **** test, even if it actually was one, would be uncivil. Right, Evzone?

 

[Alle_Gory]

Well yeah, I guess I do want to pursue her after all, otherwise I wouldn't have called her out on not replying to my texts and letter. I copied your answer verbatim, Alle Gory.

On second thought, calling her out might seem like a good idea, but what if she's truly sorry? Regardless of whether she did get my texts or not, I might as well ignore that line, because I've already forgiven her.

In this case, calling her out on this **** test, even if it actually was one, would be uncivil. Right, Evzone?

If she's truly sorry, you just forgave her. If its a sh*t test, then you passed. If she's messing with you, you didn't waste time because its just copy paste.

If she says something like 'so you think I'm a jerk', you can always remind her that SHE is the one that labeled herself and you're being welcoming and forgiving.

Win, win, win, win situation.


PS, Don't call out people on things unless you need to. If something gets out of hand, then its appropriate, and not only that but calling someone out on something usually has very negative consequences. I only do it to people that get on my nerves (chicks sometimes), and people I dislike or who I think are taking me on a ride. I want to take them down a peg.