"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Im a complete and utter Coward..THE JOURNAL!

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Ok now that thats out of the way...the healing can begin lol. Um...Im 16 5'6 and a little chubby but muscular cuz of football and powerlifting. Im filipino but a little darker than most. Im full blooded filipino but I look very spanish/Hawaiien(sp?) and I'd say im handsome but I have ZERO confidence. I'm funny and make people laugh very easily but I get so nervous around girls when they walk by and make eye contact, I immediately look straight at my feet. I can hold a conversation but cant start one. Im insecure about alot of things. I've never had a girlfriend. AND....I've been scouring every corner of this site. Im really glad to have found this place and I think it'll be very good for me to follow the advice given. I really appreciate what you guys do and I think its a very valuable public service. OK, so I cant update cuz Im leaving for hawaii for 2 weeks but I'll keep a little notebook of my approaches. My biggest hurdle will be my shyness. It binds me. It chains me to the floor. Its clutches my vocal chords and twists my posture into the shape of a question mark. Okedoke, lets change my life boys.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Start with just holding the eye contact. Then take baby steps, such as smiling. then saying hey, then after a few days of those baby steps, advance to the small talk. THen numbers.

EIther that or just dive right in, which ever you feel more comfortable with.
 
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Make sure YOU get HER number.. not that SHE gets YOURS

besides that, id follow Skilla'z advice.
 
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Have fun reading thje bible and doing the boot camp :)
 
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