I'm a C&F guy, but I freeze up when talking to girls in person

[skinnydart]

Normally I'm a pretty funny/sarcastic guy, with most of the people I hang with. Like I don't open my mouth and say anything to my parents unless it is sarcastic (we don't get along), and I usually don't have trouble busting on my friends / co-workers either.

And even when it comes to girls, when I'm laying on my bed, headphones on, surfing the internet wirelessly, 1:00am, talking with chicks on AIM, I can be pretty funny too, but I totally freeze up when I'm actually talking to them in person. Maybe it's just because I'm out of my comfort zone or whatever, or because on AIM I have a few seconds to think of a responce.

I know they say don't use AIM, but for me, I can talk for hours with one girl on aim, busting on her and being totally C&F, but then in person, I just end up going back to boring questions like "so how was ur day?", I think I just get nervous or something.

Do any of u have the same problem or suggestions?

 

[LADawg49]

Hey man, I can relate very much to u. When I talk to girls in Chat rooms/AIM/Yahoo/MSN , I can easily be C+F and all but in real life I just get nervous and don't have that same confidence. I also can number close with ease online but face to face, I get a little nervous doing so. Any advice yall could give me to get over that nervousness?

 

[Alpine]

Accept you're going to get rejected more often than not. That it's an experiment rather than a do or die thing. And that the more you do it the more the fear and nervousness goes away and there's no other way of getting rid of it.

Will that help?

 

[HypeR]

Originally posted by LADawg49
Hey man, I can relate very much to u. When I talk to girls in Chat rooms/AIM/Yahoo/MSN , I can easily be C+F and all but in real life I just get nervous and don't have that same confidence. I also can number close with ease online but face to face, I get a little nervous doing so. Any advice yall could give me to get over that nervousness?

Step away from your computer and talk to alot of girls. The nervousness will decrease/ go away over time then.

 

[Jariel]

Make more female friends. It will help you overcome any nervousness around women.

 

[skinnydart]

Accept you're going to get rejected more often than not

No, I don't have any problems calling a girl and asking her out, the problem is when I'm actually with them, all the C&F comments and responces just seem to be non-exisistant and I can't think of anything but boring stuff to talk about. The reason why is not because I'm afraid of being rejected (I'm already on a date with her).

 

[NotaGoatLover]

Originally posted by Jariel
Make more female friends. It will help you overcome any nervousness around women.

 

[Alpine]

Originally posted by skinnydart
No, I don't have any problems calling a girl and asking her out, the problem is when I'm actually with them, all the C&F comments and responces just seem to be non-exisistant and I can't think of anything but boring stuff to talk about. The reason why is not because I'm afraid of being rejected (I'm already on a date with her).

Either you have poor taste in women who are conversationally inept, OR you are self conscious enough for it to put you off your stride.

My theory still applies, you know that you can get rejected if you say something that's dumb or don't impress her enough.

At least give this some thought before dismissing it, there aren't many other reasons why this happens.

 

[sfalexi]

Unfortunately, I have the same problem. My buddies talk to me and they say, "Man. If you just talked to them like you talk to us, they'd be ALL over you! You're funny as ****!"

But oh well. One day it'll be easier for me to hit on girls. I just have to pretend they have a schlong when I go to hit on them and I'll do fine.

Wait a second . . .

. . . . I mean . . ..

 

[skinnydart]

Either you have poor taste in women who are conversationally inept

I think the problem lies with me.