I'm A Bad Conversationalist

[I'm in the Mood]

I haven't figured out why but I'm really really bad at starting and maintaining interesting conversations without having some kind of prop to guide it.

Part of the problem is I'm way more visual than verbal.

I usually try to ask open-ended questions or comment on something that I see, but I usually end up stuck in a corner and the conversation goes nowhere (I come off as boring to whoever I'm talking to.)

Also, I've tried some C+F ish comments but they usually come out really awkward.

I'm sure there's some reading material, tips or strategies out there.
What do you guys reccommend for me?

 

[saturos]

Practice makes perfect.
I feel you though...i can talk fine and am often the center of conversation with friends, but with "new" people and chicks its a swing and a miss more often than not.

 

[Jitterbug]

There's a book called Gift of the Gab by a woman who had to build her conversational skills from scratch after a coma fvcked up her brain in her 20s. I recommend that.

Don't be too harsh on yourself. You're only 16. Most kids your age suck at conversations, even the outgoing, social butterfly type. Keep practicing, pay attention to the ones around you who are good at conversations and you'll be fine as you get older.

Btw you don't always have a good conversation with everyone. It takes two to tango. Sometimes you just don't click with certain people and the conversation goes nowhere. This is normal and doesn't mean that you suck.