"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm A Bad Conversationalist

I'm in the Mood

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I haven't figured out why but I'm really really bad at starting and maintaining interesting conversations without having some kind of prop to guide it.

Part of the problem is I'm way more visual than verbal.

I usually try to ask open-ended questions or comment on something that I see, but I usually end up stuck in a corner and the conversation goes nowhere (I come off as boring to whoever I'm talking to.)

Also, I've tried some C+F ish comments but they usually come out really awkward.

I'm sure there's some reading material, tips or strategies out there.
What do you guys reccommend for me?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Practice makes perfect.
I feel you though...i can talk fine and am often the center of conversation with friends, but with "new" people and chicks its a swing and a miss more often than not.
 

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There's a book called Gift of the Gab by a woman who had to build her conversational skills from scratch after a coma fvcked up her brain in her 20s. I recommend that.

Don't be too harsh on yourself. You're only 16. Most kids your age suck at conversations, even the outgoing, social butterfly type. Keep practicing, pay attention to the ones around you who are good at conversations and you'll be fine as you get older.

Btw you don't always have a good conversation with everyone. It takes two to tango. Sometimes you just don't click with certain people and the conversation goes nowhere. This is normal and doesn't mean that you suck.
 
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