"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm 47. She's 27.

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Thanks for your reply.

I think you are spot-on. I HAD been over-thinking it. You're not the first person to have told me that. She and I will hang out again soon enough. A pleasure I never thought I'd have again. Ever! The thing is NOW...she told me she's coming back. Now, she wants to be around me again. We are always physically attracted to each other when we are in each others' presence. Even after she called it "friends". I know she is because SHE took MY hand on the walk back to her car after our last coffee. We walked hand in hand the whole way back to the car. And we actually had a passionate hug too. After that hug, I kept my hands on her hips and she kept her arms on my sounders. Then, she leaned in that fraction of an inch that told me, "If you're gonna kiss me, you better do it now!" So I laid another quick one on her. Nothing threatening. We both smiled at each other when it finished.

I have a feeling, we'll get around each other and fire it up again. I now actually HAVE TIME. I'm hopeful. We've been through some times together. She loves how tall I am (She's 5'5". I'm 6'3"). I read in these forums how you need to remind her of your touch if you want to get out of the friends-zone. I'll respectfully give her some kino-escalation (hands on hips. Touch her arms. Maybe even hold her hand again) when we're together. I'll turn this around. Hell, it's already turned around this far.

I'll keep this thread updated.
Just going to give you a little advice here......I would take a female's advice with a grain of salt, on this forum. Most often, they are closest to giving you the advice you want to hear. Not surprising you quoted and thanked a woman, out of all the other great advice you've gotten in this thread. And no, I'm not singling her out for being a woman. Simply saying her advice is a little out-dated for a girl who obviously has lost her interest for you.

Take it or leave it. Just my experience over 10+ years.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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