"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm 47. She's 27.

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Thanks for your reply.

I think you are spot-on. I HAD been over-thinking it. You're not the first person to have told me that. She and I will hang out again soon enough. A pleasure I never thought I'd have again. Ever! The thing is NOW...she told me she's coming back. Now, she wants to be around me again. We are always physically attracted to each other when we are in each others' presence. Even after she called it "friends". I know she is because SHE took MY hand on the walk back to her car after our last coffee. We walked hand in hand the whole way back to the car. And we actually had a passionate hug too. After that hug, I kept my hands on her hips and she kept her arms on my sounders. Then, she leaned in that fraction of an inch that told me, "If you're gonna kiss me, you better do it now!" So I laid another quick one on her. Nothing threatening. We both smiled at each other when it finished.

I have a feeling, we'll get around each other and fire it up again. I now actually HAVE TIME. I'm hopeful. We've been through some times together. She loves how tall I am (She's 5'5". I'm 6'3"). I read in these forums how you need to remind her of your touch if you want to get out of the friends-zone. I'll respectfully give her some kino-escalation (hands on hips. Touch her arms. Maybe even hold her hand again) when we're together. I'll turn this around. Hell, it's already turned around this far.

I'll keep this thread updated.
Just going to give you a little advice here......I would take a female's advice with a grain of salt, on this forum. Most often, they are closest to giving you the advice you want to hear. Not surprising you quoted and thanked a woman, out of all the other great advice you've gotten in this thread. And no, I'm not singling her out for being a woman. Simply saying her advice is a little out-dated for a girl who obviously has lost her interest for you.

Take it or leave it. Just my experience over 10+ years.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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