"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm 47. She's 27.

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Thanks for your reply.

I think you are spot-on. I HAD been over-thinking it. You're not the first person to have told me that. She and I will hang out again soon enough. A pleasure I never thought I'd have again. Ever! The thing is NOW...she told me she's coming back. Now, she wants to be around me again. We are always physically attracted to each other when we are in each others' presence. Even after she called it "friends". I know she is because SHE took MY hand on the walk back to her car after our last coffee. We walked hand in hand the whole way back to the car. And we actually had a passionate hug too. After that hug, I kept my hands on her hips and she kept her arms on my sounders. Then, she leaned in that fraction of an inch that told me, "If you're gonna kiss me, you better do it now!" So I laid another quick one on her. Nothing threatening. We both smiled at each other when it finished.

I have a feeling, we'll get around each other and fire it up again. I now actually HAVE TIME. I'm hopeful. We've been through some times together. She loves how tall I am (She's 5'5". I'm 6'3"). I read in these forums how you need to remind her of your touch if you want to get out of the friends-zone. I'll respectfully give her some kino-escalation (hands on hips. Touch her arms. Maybe even hold her hand again) when we're together. I'll turn this around. Hell, it's already turned around this far.

I'll keep this thread updated.
Just going to give you a little advice here......I would take a female's advice with a grain of salt, on this forum. Most often, they are closest to giving you the advice you want to hear. Not surprising you quoted and thanked a woman, out of all the other great advice you've gotten in this thread. And no, I'm not singling her out for being a woman. Simply saying her advice is a little out-dated for a girl who obviously has lost her interest for you.

Take it or leave it. Just my experience over 10+ years.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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