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As someone I work with says...
"You can't breathe life into a cadaver."
What's that mean?
You can't string along or prop up or keep alive something someone won't give their 100% to the 50% they have to give. Nor can someone give MORE than 50% of a relationship very long without PULLING back to LESS than 50% for a long-time, too.
I met a girl when she was 17 (legal here). We dated BEFORE she turned. When she turned, we began the intimate parts because we couldn't wait. At first, like with most YOUNGIN's, the attraction to the situation is the age difference and the lust. It's mostly sexual attraction. There's to be had with such a HUGE gap UNLESS she REALLY wants an older guy. If she's just dating you to date you, much like all other guys her age, she won't be around very long. That was the case with my girl, who would flake, not call, call often, want to hang out strong for a few weeks, then not at all. Most of this is due to her LACK of direction. My girl's family was divorced, she lived with her mom, her dad was mostly absent, and she had some resentment toward him. When I brought her around the few people I did, it was a poor social situation. She wasn't even "mature" enough to socialize with family or my brother, and when I set up family parties involving booze, she'd cancel last minute. At last, I gave up. Of course, in typical YOUTHFUL fashion, she blamed it on me. But she couldn't see her own short-comings.
For guys even CONSIDERING going that much younger, it's ONLY a JOY ride UNLESS she initiates something more. Regardless of how bad you want it or don't, unless she's willing to committ, it's worthless. There's few guys I know of who could turn this into anything serious. It really takes finding the RIGHT girl. Maybe if you're in MAINE, as my cousin is 19, and recently married at 18. Her hubby was about 22 at the time. Up there, lifestyle is different. People care more about family, about dropping by a neighbors house to drink, or boat, than they do about careers. My cousin, who's beautiful, felt the same way. She lives in the middle of nowhere and is very happy there. People are wonderful and her hubby is well off for a country hick.
In the big cities, for young girls, there's lots of distractions. I know a FEW girls who are super hot, who are with long-term boyfriends, but it's rare, and they are dating guys their own age, and will leave for college with them as bf's, but probably not return with them.
The best analogy I have is that it's like being a WEAPONS specialist. You guys are ok with handguns, but can't handle nitro-glycerine, which is what the 18/19 yo porn-looking girl is like. She's volatile. Hot. Given to her emotions. Directionless. Clueless. Zany. But can be loads of fun. She will be committed to HER REALITY, unless you present something AKIN to the MAFIA lifestyle or GANGSTA lifestyle, rollin on dubs with cocaine kilos in the backs. That fantasy lifestyle will appeal to some.
My girl was wonderful for a few things. Our first time we hung out, she wore a CORSET, a white one, and a short jean skirt, no panties. Her D-sized tits busted out all the time, and she was a real make out queen. When I got over the fact she wouldn't report me, I pushed more aggressively at doing things with her. She was nympho with the "right" guy, and more like PORN hot than ACTRESS beautiful. But she wasn't wifey material. Ever. Last I heard, she got knocked up by an OLD bf, although she SWORE she didn't want to SETTLE DOWN or BE A MOTHER like all her friends. Now, she's WITH-BABY @ 20 years old, and will likely turn out to be a shadow of her mother, and although she's great, it isn't a better life. She could have had better, but she doesn't better.
As My Wingman once said..."Hey man, it's fun to go slumming, just don't stay there." And that's what it was, Slumming. It's one thing if you're 32 and she's 25, girls that age wants marriage and kids, to be a younger mother and have time to recover their body again. If you're 40 and she's 32, fine too. But that 18 year old barrier isn't possible yet. At least in the BIG city parts of the country.
A-Unit
