"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ignoring texts

Fireballs

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Ok so I have done some searching on here, I didn't want to make a thread but my situation is a little unique.

I'm 27, she's 23. We work for the same company (I know, I know) and we have been sleeping together for about a month. She stays at my house as we are both away from 'home' for a week and then for a week I am away.

When I am away I do not initiate any contact with her. She will call me maybe once and text me a few times to which I only reply if she asks me something. I am interested in a LTR with her but have not said anything..been playing it cool.

I get a text from her saying she cannot wait till I get back and some other crap about work but no questions. Should I reply to messages like this? Or ignore....

EDIT: Have ignored texts from her before and gotten another message saying 'are u ignoring me?' not sure how to deal with that?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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if you're interested in long term then i believe u should respond to her but make sure watever u respond back is interesting otherwise it soon becums bland..text flirting can be fun & can amplify attraction
 

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
+1
I wouldn't initiate texting first too often, but if she's texting you there shouldn't be a problem of texting her back without her having to ask a question.
 

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
Definitely +1

i back this up one hundered percent
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I ignore about 75% of incoming texts from everybody. People are used to it by now. As long as you're consistent about it (so it doesn't seem weird that you're ignoring her) it should be all good.
 

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
+1 Rep.

Exactly what he said. Don't be a little school girl playing games.
 

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My question to you is "do you feel like replying?"

If you don't feel like it then don't. Women will ignore our texts, calls, flake on us but somehow you feel like you gotta answer every little text a woman sends you!

If you don't feel like answering a text don't do it simple as that. They'll do it to you that's for sure.

When it comes to texts like the ones she sent you it's never a good thing to express your feelings over texts.

You could reply to her with the classic DJ answer "I know."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
Yeah I thought this. I just hate texting.

Thanks for the replys, definately helped me out.
 

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powpow said:
What do you want out of this relationship?
LTR..quality girl although I'm slightly interested in another girl.. trying to avoid oneitis and I don't see the problem with it seeings as she hasn't brought up being exclusive and I certainly won't be bringing it up.
 

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If I get asked something like "how are you?" I'll respond. If I get a text saying "I'm fat," or something else retarded like that, I'm not going to waste my time responding.
 

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Fireballs said:
LTR..quality girl although I'm slightly interested in another girl.. trying to avoid oneitis and I don't see the problem with it seeings as she hasn't brought up being exclusive and I certainly won't be bringing it up.
If ignoring her texts still keeps her attraction level high, keep doing what works.

Or, keep your messages short. Nothing lengthy is necessary.
 
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