"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ignoring texts

Fireballs

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Ok so I have done some searching on here, I didn't want to make a thread but my situation is a little unique.

I'm 27, she's 23. We work for the same company (I know, I know) and we have been sleeping together for about a month. She stays at my house as we are both away from 'home' for a week and then for a week I am away.

When I am away I do not initiate any contact with her. She will call me maybe once and text me a few times to which I only reply if she asks me something. I am interested in a LTR with her but have not said anything..been playing it cool.

I get a text from her saying she cannot wait till I get back and some other crap about work but no questions. Should I reply to messages like this? Or ignore....

EDIT: Have ignored texts from her before and gotten another message saying 'are u ignoring me?' not sure how to deal with that?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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if you're interested in long term then i believe u should respond to her but make sure watever u respond back is interesting otherwise it soon becums bland..text flirting can be fun & can amplify attraction
 

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
+1
I wouldn't initiate texting first too often, but if she's texting you there shouldn't be a problem of texting her back without her having to ask a question.
 

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
Definitely +1

i back this up one hundered percent
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I ignore about 75% of incoming texts from everybody. People are used to it by now. As long as you're consistent about it (so it doesn't seem weird that you're ignoring her) it should be all good.
 

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
+1 Rep.

Exactly what he said. Don't be a little school girl playing games.
 

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My question to you is "do you feel like replying?"

If you don't feel like it then don't. Women will ignore our texts, calls, flake on us but somehow you feel like you gotta answer every little text a woman sends you!

If you don't feel like answering a text don't do it simple as that. They'll do it to you that's for sure.

When it comes to texts like the ones she sent you it's never a good thing to express your feelings over texts.

You could reply to her with the classic DJ answer "I know."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bilboteabaggins said:
brother if you are fvcking her I see no point in playing games anymore, just my take
Yeah I thought this. I just hate texting.

Thanks for the replys, definately helped me out.
 

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powpow said:
What do you want out of this relationship?
LTR..quality girl although I'm slightly interested in another girl.. trying to avoid oneitis and I don't see the problem with it seeings as she hasn't brought up being exclusive and I certainly won't be bringing it up.
 

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If I get asked something like "how are you?" I'll respond. If I get a text saying "I'm fat," or something else retarded like that, I'm not going to waste my time responding.
 

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Fireballs said:
LTR..quality girl although I'm slightly interested in another girl.. trying to avoid oneitis and I don't see the problem with it seeings as she hasn't brought up being exclusive and I certainly won't be bringing it up.
If ignoring her texts still keeps her attraction level high, keep doing what works.

Or, keep your messages short. Nothing lengthy is necessary.
 
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