"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I have a tendancy to ignore a girl (that I know) if they're standing next to me and if I have interest in them. I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me." I have no problem with going up to a girl; it's just that if they're near me, I will usually refuse to initiate a conversation with them, but I will carry on with one if they initiate first. If they're in our group's circle of conversation, I won't talk to them at all unless they direct the conversation towards me themselves or they purposely stand next to or look at me inorder to gain my attention. Is this a good thing that I'm doing by not giving them my attention or would it be better for me to just turn around and start talking to them.

It's not like I completely ignore them all the time. I'll come from behind and surprise them with a hug. I guess I just don't want to seem like they're controlling me by having myself talking to them instead of them talking to me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I don't think it's the best idea to ignore them, cause then you might come off as an ass. And nobody likes an ass.

But I can see where you're coming at. I would say sometimes you should actually talk to them at, while other times, don't. Since you're giving them attention at one point, then taking it away. It'll confuse them. Making them wonder "why isn't this guy talking to me, is it something I did? Aren't my looks attracting him?" And so on.
 
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shydude said:
By now they probably think u r GAY..
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I hope you were being sarcastic. If you read my first post, you'd notice that I don't completely shut them off. I just don't associate with them unless they are the first to engage.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The other day I was takling to this girl, and every few minutes I'd shut the conversation off, while still standing beside her, to watch what was going on around me (a basketball game). Then after not talking for like 30 sceonds she'd yawn pretty loudly, I think it was to get me to start takling again, so I'd wait 30 more and talk to her some more. Then she kept rubbing against me, not sure if it were accidental or not, but I said "Man, can't you keep your hands off of me? Why are you rubbing against me so much?" then she smiled coyly and laughed. :p Anyway I'm not sure what this has to do with your post, but I'd talk to them once in awhile.
 
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Hmmm.... I would say if you are more than pleased with your harem of women to take this approah, but if you arent then start approaching. This reminds me of myself so I can speak a little better on the topic. You have to ask yourself "Am I not approaching because I am the King...or because I am afraid of rejections"

Anyways you should also think of the potential girls you arent seeing because they are too shy to approach. It is your job to meet these girls
 
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Hmmm.... I would say if you are more than pleased with your harem of women to take this approah, but if you arent then start approaching. This reminds me of myself so I can speak a little better on the topic. You have to ask yourself "Am I not approaching because I am the King...or because I am afraid of rejections"

Anyways you should also think of the potential girls you arent seeing because they are too shy to approach. It is your job to meet these girls
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Good advice. Thanks.
 
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"I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me."
-wrong mindset to have man.

son't smother them with attention constantly but there is no reason that you can't start a convorsation with them. It's foolish not to. If you see them a few times a week wait 2 or 3 weeks and get numbers and ask them out.

"I'll come from behind and surprise them with a hug."
-unless your close with them that's creepy. don't do it.

I guess I just don't want to seem like they're controlling me by having myself talking to them instead of them talking to me.
-that's foolish man. it works both ways.
 
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applaya said:
"I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me."
-wrong mindset to have man.

son't smother them with attention constantly but there is no reason that you can't start a convorsation with them. It's foolish not to. If you see them a few times a week wait 2 or 3 weeks and get numbers and ask them out.

"I'll come from behind and surprise them with a hug."
-unless your close with them that's creepy. don't do it.

I guess I just don't want to seem like they're controlling me by having myself talking to them instead of them talking to me.
-that's foolish man. it works both ways.
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Yeah, I have a really weird "style" of thinking, even according to my friends. I guess I may overanalyze things. But about the hug thing, it's not creepy at all. I don't sneak up on them and pounce; I'm just saying how I don't avoid approaching them.

I'll start engaging more.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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"I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me."
-wrong mindset to have man.

I agree. You are probably missing out by doing this. There are plenty of ways to engage a girl without giving all your power away....
 
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