"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have a tendancy to ignore a girl (that I know) if they're standing next to me and if I have interest in them. I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me." I have no problem with going up to a girl; it's just that if they're near me, I will usually refuse to initiate a conversation with them, but I will carry on with one if they initiate first. If they're in our group's circle of conversation, I won't talk to them at all unless they direct the conversation towards me themselves or they purposely stand next to or look at me inorder to gain my attention. Is this a good thing that I'm doing by not giving them my attention or would it be better for me to just turn around and start talking to them.

It's not like I completely ignore them all the time. I'll come from behind and surprise them with a hug. I guess I just don't want to seem like they're controlling me by having myself talking to them instead of them talking to me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't think it's the best idea to ignore them, cause then you might come off as an ass. And nobody likes an ass.

But I can see where you're coming at. I would say sometimes you should actually talk to them at, while other times, don't. Since you're giving them attention at one point, then taking it away. It'll confuse them. Making them wonder "why isn't this guy talking to me, is it something I did? Aren't my looks attracting him?" And so on.
 
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shydude said:
By now they probably think u r GAY..
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I hope you were being sarcastic. If you read my first post, you'd notice that I don't completely shut them off. I just don't associate with them unless they are the first to engage.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The other day I was takling to this girl, and every few minutes I'd shut the conversation off, while still standing beside her, to watch what was going on around me (a basketball game). Then after not talking for like 30 sceonds she'd yawn pretty loudly, I think it was to get me to start takling again, so I'd wait 30 more and talk to her some more. Then she kept rubbing against me, not sure if it were accidental or not, but I said "Man, can't you keep your hands off of me? Why are you rubbing against me so much?" then she smiled coyly and laughed. :p Anyway I'm not sure what this has to do with your post, but I'd talk to them once in awhile.
 
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Hmmm.... I would say if you are more than pleased with your harem of women to take this approah, but if you arent then start approaching. This reminds me of myself so I can speak a little better on the topic. You have to ask yourself "Am I not approaching because I am the King...or because I am afraid of rejections"

Anyways you should also think of the potential girls you arent seeing because they are too shy to approach. It is your job to meet these girls
 
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Microphone Fiend said:
Hmmm.... I would say if you are more than pleased with your harem of women to take this approah, but if you arent then start approaching. This reminds me of myself so I can speak a little better on the topic. You have to ask yourself "Am I not approaching because I am the King...or because I am afraid of rejections"

Anyways you should also think of the potential girls you arent seeing because they are too shy to approach. It is your job to meet these girls
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Good advice. Thanks.
 
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"I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me."
-wrong mindset to have man.

son't smother them with attention constantly but there is no reason that you can't start a convorsation with them. It's foolish not to. If you see them a few times a week wait 2 or 3 weeks and get numbers and ask them out.

"I'll come from behind and surprise them with a hug."
-unless your close with them that's creepy. don't do it.

I guess I just don't want to seem like they're controlling me by having myself talking to them instead of them talking to me.
-that's foolish man. it works both ways.
 
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applaya said:
"I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me."
-wrong mindset to have man.

son't smother them with attention constantly but there is no reason that you can't start a convorsation with them. It's foolish not to. If you see them a few times a week wait 2 or 3 weeks and get numbers and ask them out.

"I'll come from behind and surprise them with a hug."
-unless your close with them that's creepy. don't do it.

I guess I just don't want to seem like they're controlling me by having myself talking to them instead of them talking to me.
-that's foolish man. it works both ways.
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Yeah, I have a really weird "style" of thinking, even according to my friends. I guess I may overanalyze things. But about the hug thing, it's not creepy at all. I don't sneak up on them and pounce; I'm just saying how I don't avoid approaching them.

I'll start engaging more.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"I, for some reason, have this mindset of thinking "they have to earn a conversation with me."
-wrong mindset to have man.

I agree. You are probably missing out by doing this. There are plenty of ways to engage a girl without giving all your power away....
 
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