ignoring her..

[shock]

I'll make this brief..

I've known this girl for about 2 years now. We were best friends. About 2 months ago we sorta started to get serious. We were never committed, but she always told me she felt committed to me and didn't want to be with anyone else.

Two weeks ago she told me she does't want to be in anything serious, and would like the opportunity to date other people if the chance comes about. However she said she wanted to keep things the way me and her are. Cuddling, sex, basicly acting like bf/gf. She wants the best of both worlds from what it seems.

I have a problem with her dating other guys..especially when she is dating me at the same time. There is a lot of feelings there. It would be way to hard on me.

I live about 3 hours away from her, so already there is a first red flag. The distance. I've decided that she pissed me off, led me on, and I'm done with her. I'm not talking to her anymore. I've been ignoring her calls and text messages for a few days now. Is this the best thing to do at this point? Will this prove a point?

I want her as a friend, but nothing more. Right now though there are feelings there and I don't want to here about her and other guys. But am I ruining any chance of a future friendship? We sorta screwed ourselves here..it's tough to go back to just friends, especially when they are a very close friend.

 

[DJDamage]

Iv'e been there at almost the exect same situation with a girl I thought was a good friend, the only difference is that she dumped me after going out with a guy for a whole month, without informing me before hand and walking away like nothing happen. This is a sign of disrespect. I stopped seeing her altogether.

Your gal at least informed you that the dating between you and her has not really worked out. She is giving you the options instead of forcing you an option. You two may have been good friends but you didn't really reach a committed relationship stage.

If your feelings get in the way maybe you should stop seeing her and date other women until you get you head stright. Its your feelings that are the problem. She basically told you she wants you as a friend but you two can still have sex?! whats wrong with that? you are still getting something.

The decision already was made by her, but your options are:

a) tie off all contact
b) ganji game her
c) See her as a friend, while still banging her, ignoring your feelings and hooking up with other chicks in the meantime.

I think option C is the best one.

 

[whistler]

I know it's hard.

She ended it. But she did it like a coward.

At this point, I think you have little to lose by giving her an ultimatum: you and I alone, or just you and whoever else.

Or, if you don't mind a f*ck buddy with no expectations about the future, just say "OK," and then treat her like one. Just f*ck her when it's convenient for both of you. But no more affection. She can't have sex AND affection. That's a nice fantasy of hers -- she would be using you.

 

[Climax]

shock: If this is "love" that u feel towards her, then just being a "f*ck buddy will not work, & neither will doing anything that involves affection with her. U need to rather get over these strong feelings that u have for her & set your mind to ONLY see her as a friend.

She MUST of had a reason to say that she wants to be able to date other guys, i rate she already met a guy & she probably likes him.

If u really want this chick then what u need to do is see her as a friend and "respekt" her wishes, and NOT just ignore her. Tell her that if all she wants from u is ur friendship, then fine. But also tell her that friends dont F*ck eachother.

So basically ur taking all/most of the pleasure that u give her away, and making her miss it, AND u are "respecting" her wishes (which she will appreciate and respect u back for it)....

Now the chances of her staying with this other guy arent that great (she will be missing you ) ... and when she DOES brake up with this other guy, its gonna be YOU who will be there by her side.

So if i were you, i would call her and appologise for ignoring you, & tell her that it was just abit of a shock to you.

Ignoring her wont make things better, & if u DO like her alot/love her, ignoring her wont make things better, it will probably only make u loose her alltogeather.

Well, i hope you get what i am trying to say

Good luck & i hope that you make the right decision... & please dont hesitate to let us know how it goes

Laterz...

 

[shock]

crazyness..

Alright, well here is some crazy sh!t. The day I posted my question about ignoring this girl, I meet another girl that night.

This new girl is pretty awesome. We hung out the first night, then again the night after. Seeing her twice in a row I knew I had to kiss her. So i did. That's pretty much where that stands. I'll play the distance game for a few days so I can think about everything.

it feels good though..she wanted to see other people (whether she is or not I do not know, but probably) and now I'm doing the same thing. She has been calling me, and sending me messages. Asking why I wont talk to her, I miss you.. etc. It feels good to know I have some girl wondering about me, but like anyone would, she is not going to keep that up for long. If I don't make the next move, I could lose her, indefinately. However I don't feel I'm stable enough at this point to here about her and other people. This is primarily why I decided to ignore her in the first place.

The whole "not talking to here" thing is working for me. It's somewhat selfish, especially since she did have the common courtesy and respect me enough to end before she cheated on me or something, like DJDamage said.

I dunno guys..she can be a great friend. Not someone I would want to lose. But my happiness does need to come into play..and being close with her again could bring me down.

 

[Climax]

Well, if u are scared of being brought to feeling down, then u need to set your mind to "She is ONLY a friend and NOTHING more" .... if you need more time to maybe get over feelings etc, then i suggest u let her know that u need a little time. If she cares for u, she will understand.

Otherwise... take some time, think ur situation out, sort out ur emotional feelings, and when u are ready to make any decisions, then u can. Dont rush any decisions, make sure that the decision that u make will be the one that will be for the best and benefit you the most.

take care...

Laterz...

 

[pimpin' reloaded>>]

whoa!! wait a minute.....

listen peeps..this is deep!! this gal sound like she wanna be a don juanna......trust me.. yu want her as a freind but you will slide back...tha feelinz u got are too deep....be careful..
i would suggest yu review yo past time with her and try to find anomalies..small things that might hint on whether she was for real (geniune)...there could be some tit bits yu under looked..which if joined could amass to smthin big..some signs from tha good times/bad times you had with her..a dunno if yu gettin ma point....


good luck shockmeister...

 

[myfriendblu]

men and women just don't make good plutonic friends.....I have said this many a time before. Women make lousy hang out friends, and when they grow up and fall in love, they will drop you as a friend like a bad habit. Your just wasting your time.

People can argue with me all they want. Facts are facts. My advise to you is to ditch this chick.