Ignoring a lady to make her want you more

[FemPulley]

Firstly there's this girl in uni whom I've been chatting and bantering with. We have chemistry, and I get this positive vibe off her, but I think she may be playing hard to get. For example

Me: I'll be going on a trip next week so you probably won't seem me for a while...
Her: Why should I care.

Now I don't see her that often, perhaps once or even twice a week if lucky. I saw her for the second time this week in the library but decided to just ignore her and not even acknowledge her presence. She eventually left the library, while I sat there on the computer looking busy. Will this go in for my favour, giving an image that I'm a busy guy with business to do, and not going to mess about chatting her up every time.

Secondly, as a man I understand that the man does have to make the move if he likes someone. But, does that mean he will initiate every single conversation he has with the woman? Wouldn't that go against the man's favour? Should the man at some point wait for the woman to initiate conversation?

Cheers

 

[bigneil]

I think she may be playing hard to get. For example

Me: I'll be going on a trip next week so you probably won't seem me for a while...
Her: Why should I care.

You may be mistaking hard to get with impossible to get.

 

[JohnChops]

she pretty much told you she doesnt want you in that sentence its pretty clear.

 

[Purefilth]

she pretty much told you she doesnt want you in that sentence its pretty clear.

that plus ignoring you existed at the library.

I think you have no plates and you're going all AFC, reading signals and chemistry that just aren't there.

NEXT.

 

[Desdinova]

Ignoring a lady to make her want you more

This strategy only works if the woman is already interested in you. It doesn't work on women who see you as valueless.

 

[Mike32ct]

She talking down to you. Not a good sign.

Ignore her permanently and don't look back.

 

[mrRuckus]

Be wonderful, then be gone.

You forgot the first step.

 

[Gray The Prince]

She doesn't want you. Move on to the next one.

 

[sighsigh]

Girls do not play hard to get. As a general rule.

Yes, ignoring a woman may make you look less needy, which is a good thing. But I do not think it matters in this case since it seems like she has a low interest level (IL).

It doesn't take a whole lot of interaction with a woman to gauge her IL. If during your interaction(s) with her she gives you indicators of interest (IOIs), then go ahead and ask her out. If she doesn't give you IOIs, then she's not interested, and you should leave her alone (or you should prepare to be rejected if you decide to ask her out anyway).