"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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tennisbuck12

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Yo,

What do you guys do, when a chick ignores your text about an second date. Just drop it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Glassguy

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You put the offer out there, why would you pursue after she ignored it?
 

SoSerene

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Speaking from personal experience, definitely move on and delete her number too.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bingo-Player

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it usually means she's trying to tell you that things aren't going aswell as you think they are

in my experiences once a woman's interested in me she will make virtually 100% of the effort to initate contact
 

RangerMIke

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Low interest... move on. Although highly unlikely, it is possible that your text got lost in the mountain of text messages she's been getting through the day. She might have overlooked it... in cases like this, she will eventually reach out to you with some kind of apology... when she does... go ahead and ask her out again if she doesn't counter on the spot. If she answers with anything other than a 'yes' or a legitimate counter-offer because of other plans she might have. Then you need to let this one go and keep on fishing.

DO NOT keep texting her. ASSUME she got your message and she is intentionally ignoring it, when this happens you ignore back. This is just like if you called a woman and asked her out and instead of saying yes or no she just hung up on you... are you going to call her back after such disrespect? No, you are going to be surprised, laugh it off and forget about it. DO NOT get mad... anger is unproductive, and gets you nowhere.
 

Trump

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Yo,

What do you guys do, when a chick ignores your text about an second date. Just drop it?
You got to be careful with texts like that. She could use it to show her boyfriend to get more goodies from him.

You are left vulnerable and now you feel nervous. Friday night dinner? I hope you are having sex with this girl. Would have just asked for a coffee near your place.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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El Payaso

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It means no, yo.
 

tennisbuck12

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Guys,

Here's what she sent me last night. I thought it was funny, but can any of you think of a reply that would be in my favor. I'm not going to setup date more then 4-5 days in advance.

Hey! Thanks hope your week is gong well too!! This weekend is packed for me:( I have my best friend coming into town. So probably can't;( Hopefully you have a great fourth.
 

tennisbuck12

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I was thinking about not even responding, I already had deleted her number. I just want to play games with her, more then anything
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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pyros

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She is not interested in you NOW, that is for sure.

Anyway, you never know what may happen in the future...so, I would either not reply at all, or just a brief text like:
you: ok, have fun. See you.
And you cease conversations with her unless she initiates.
 

dude99

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Guys,

Here's what she sent me last night. I thought it was funny, but can any of you think of a reply that would be in my favor. I'm not going to setup date more then 4-5 days in advance.

Hey! Thanks hope your week is gong well too!! This weekend is packed for me:( I have my best friend coming into town. So probably can't;( Hopefully you have a great fourth.
Wait for about 2 weeks then reply with , "hey sorry who is this?" Then permanently ignore from that moment on.
 

Fireballs

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"No problem, let me know when you're free to catch up"

Then move onto the next girl/s.. If she initiates, great, if not its her loss right.

I also like Roissys style of sending her the birthday cat emoji in situations like this.
 

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As a general rule, you should reach out at least one more time. I sometimes miss text messages or forget to respond when I get busy.

Remember that attractive women live in a different reality than most of us. They are constantly bombarded with attention from girlfriends and thirsty faggots pretty much around the clock. Until I got a high level job and started spinning more plates than ever, I didn't really understand what this was like. Its easy for things to get lost in the shuffle. Very easy.

Just send her a question mark (?) to bump your original message to the top. If she ignores that move on.
 
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