Was in line at a store today and noticed someone who ghosted me like two feet away. I saw her from the corner of my eye and she was playing with her hair looking back and forth at me. I made it seem like I was lost in thought and completely ignored her, paid for my stuff, and left. However on the inside, my heart rate went up and I wanted to acknowledge her and say hi. I'm glad I didn't because it would've been awkward as sh*t. I had nothing to say to her and that would've probably started up a sh*t show again.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ignored someone in public after being ghosted
- Thread starter Gan
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KingofPuss
Master Don Juan
Smooth. No reason to acknowledge, I would only do that if you got caught noticing her. And if that happened, just say "Hi, Name" smile and turn your attention to something else. No need to be bitter or show it.
