"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you're good looking, would C+F line about being good looking work?

Fela Kuti

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Just a lame example of such line: "It's normal for you to be nervous talking to a handsome man like me."

Now, if you really are handsome, would women react to it badly such as thinking, "well, duh. hello, mr. obvious." or "yea I can see it already, no need to flaunt it. what an *******."

What do you think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SoSuaveDude

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seems unnecessary and like you're essentially seeking validation or closure on your looks.
 

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Its all about the delivery. If you boast about your looks...you know you've achieved the desired reaction when the girl puts on a playful frown or scowl & says nothing in response...or a slight "humph" like she's trying to blow it off. Attentive people will notice slight twitching or fidgeting, you may even hear..."showoff" or "yeah yeah".

Now a girl who is totally dumbstruck/outright slut will stroke your ego & overtly agree.

However there really shouldn't be a need to use such remarks & they should be used very sparingly(unless of course you want to troll those around you).
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Just a lame example of such line: "It's normal for you to be nervous talking to a handsome man like me."
There is c@cky and then there is too c@cky. Remember its c@cky and funny not just c@cky.

That line might work if you don't take yourself too seriously. After saying that line you need to do something funny (pop your collar and do a Zollander face).
 

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I'd never use that as an opener, but I did actually say something almost exactly like that to this girl I'm seeing currently. She and I have the rapport though that allows me to say just about anything absurd and get away with it. Gotta start with the jokes early.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If I get a compliment about something other than looks, I add that I am such a sexy devil too. I call other people sexy too,including my mom, so they know where I am coming from.....
 

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If you feel your good looking then, let your good looks shine on their own. Like DJDamage said; "There is c@cky and then there is too c@cky. Remember its c@cky and funny not just c@cky." Also, dont brag about yourself either.
 
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