"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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if youre good friends with her...

needsomehelp

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ive started meeting a girl regularly (every other day pretty much). she's even introduced me to her family when she invited me over once. problem is we're good friends. i think she definitely might be into me and im into her. thing is, if i take a chance and kiss her, i could lose a lot (not just my friendship with her but also my reputation altogether). so is there any test i could pull on her to see what she truly thinks of me and see if she would let me kiss her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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erm...how could you lose your reputation by growing a pair and making a move? If anything, her girlfriends will be s******ing about you behind your back if you DON'T make a move.
 

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and so the hell what if the relationship goes to crap? she's not the only girl and you won't be missing anything at all dude, really. if you want to "be" with her and you're not, then why screw it all up with emotions and feelings and all that.

a true friend (even though this sounds funny) would try to see if his feelings would go anywhere and not weird out the friendship afterwards if she rejected him. At least that's the feeling I get when girls are fed up of guys pretending to be their friends only in the end to have wanted sex.

I'd honestly just get to know each other and try to take it somewhere, if it don't go anywhere then what comes next is up to you.

but really never put importance on a new friendship or even a long one. I find sometimes the other person won't even give a crap cuz my ex friend was being stupid and threw away a good friendship.

so it's your choice mate, but i'd suggest just not feeling guilty if you are and just try going for it. don't do it all cheesy and nervous like, just know that it's not the end of the world if she goes "whoa, what are you doing?" Cuz i find girls won't tell you anything until you make the move. They'll usually not tell you to make the move either, so keep that in mind. It's all about having the balls to take a chance.

good luck
 
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