"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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if youre good friends with her...

needsomehelp

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ive started meeting a girl regularly (every other day pretty much). she's even introduced me to her family when she invited me over once. problem is we're good friends. i think she definitely might be into me and im into her. thing is, if i take a chance and kiss her, i could lose a lot (not just my friendship with her but also my reputation altogether). so is there any test i could pull on her to see what she truly thinks of me and see if she would let me kiss her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lebRambo

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erm...how could you lose your reputation by growing a pair and making a move? If anything, her girlfriends will be s******ing about you behind your back if you DON'T make a move.
 

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and so the hell what if the relationship goes to crap? she's not the only girl and you won't be missing anything at all dude, really. if you want to "be" with her and you're not, then why screw it all up with emotions and feelings and all that.

a true friend (even though this sounds funny) would try to see if his feelings would go anywhere and not weird out the friendship afterwards if she rejected him. At least that's the feeling I get when girls are fed up of guys pretending to be their friends only in the end to have wanted sex.

I'd honestly just get to know each other and try to take it somewhere, if it don't go anywhere then what comes next is up to you.

but really never put importance on a new friendship or even a long one. I find sometimes the other person won't even give a crap cuz my ex friend was being stupid and threw away a good friendship.

so it's your choice mate, but i'd suggest just not feeling guilty if you are and just try going for it. don't do it all cheesy and nervous like, just know that it's not the end of the world if she goes "whoa, what are you doing?" Cuz i find girls won't tell you anything until you make the move. They'll usually not tell you to make the move either, so keep that in mind. It's all about having the balls to take a chance.

good luck
 
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