"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
If your girl is pregnant
- Thread starter Thugo
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
do you want to be a father? if not, did she know from the beginning you don't want a child?
are you 100% sure she is pregnant?
I plan on the paternity test, but pretty sure it's mine.
I don't love this girl, but I won't be a rat and abandon her.
So now am I stuck in a miserable relationship the rest of my life with a girl I don't love and a kid? Maybe I'll love the kid.
I want to be a father sure, but not with her.
I still should have worn a condom though.
So is it game over? I'll never find the love of my life?
Like I said, I can't just abandon the girl because I don't love her. I have morals. She does love me, but I don't love her.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Read my first post. She is against abortion. She will never do it. She would never give it away for adoption. She wants the damn kid. She's happy she's pregnant. She got me good. My only hope is the paternity test reveals it's not mine.
The one thing I will not do is marry her because of this.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
just be a good dad..pay child support and see your child as much as you can.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Let that be a lesson to the rest of you, never trust a girl with the pills (she either forgets to take them or they don't end up working properly). Even if a girl says she will take the 48hr pill or do abortion, don;t believe her. She might change her mind when she will have to make that tough decision.
Even if you wear a condom I recommand to still pull it out before you ***.
If you don't love her, don't be with her despite if its your kid or not.
I guess you're right.
It's what the woman says goes. We have legislation making head way to states that women may have an abortion without asking for permission first from their husband/boyfriend, etc.
Screw child support, just split the time taking care of the child. There is no reason women should have more power in who gets to take care of the child over males. If she takes care of the baby full time and you just send checks and stop by time to time, she can influence the child into resenting her father.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
about maybe ten years ago, i had a conversation with this guy who had a night stand with some girl... she got pregnant. she wanted to keep the baby. the guy explained to the girl that he would be there for the baby, but he wouldn't be there for her.
this is the same approach i'd take if i was in a similar situation. i know it sounds harsh, but in a complicated situaiton like this, it's best to be blunt/to the point. i would tell her, "i do not see myself being with you in the future. but what ever decision you make, i'll respect that. and i'll be there for the baby... but i'm not going to be there for you."
reminds me of something chris rock said in one of his stand up routines. i'll never forget this!
"If you get a girl pregnant, NEVER even consider mentioning abortion. don't even mention the first ****ing syllables. because if she decides to keep it, that baby will be six years old one day... and you'll ask your son how he's doing, and he'll say, "I'M ALIVE MOTHER****ER! THAT'S HOW I'M DOING! YOU WANTED ME DEAD! BUT LOOK AT ME! I'M ALIVE MOTHER****ER!"
So to avoid this type of drama, there's only two things you can say to a girl in this type of situation:
1) said in an AFC'ish type of way, "Oh baby, this is fantastic! I look forward to having this baby with you. Oh baby I loooove you!....
2) Look at her straight in the eyes seriously and say, "So what are you going to do?"
Oh man, that was classic! Funny yet so true
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I've noticed that women are terrible at taking ANY kind of pills. Unless you live with the woman and see her take the pill each day, don't take her word for it. Put a rubber on.
If you don't have joined custody, you'll probably end up paying for child support. All your paycheques will have a chunk deducted off them (which is based on your gross, not your take-home) to care for said baby (and for the mother to spend however she sees fit). You have two choices:
1) Joined custody
2) Pay for the kid's needs, her makeup, her shoes, her new bf's birthday present, etc etc.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.