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Simple- don't have a revolving door of women. You have a daughter, right? So you should be married. End of story.Epimanes said:And if said scenerio was to occur... What would you say to your daughter about your revolving door of women?
Unless your daughter is fugly this is a moot point.Epimanes said:Would you want your daughter putting out or to be a plate spun by a bunch of other DJ's on the first date like all these guys here expect?
Epi
She just hasn't met a real enough dude to game her yet. She seems to have a high and mighty mentality but trust me once prom season rolls around and if she looks half decent the dogs will be on the prowl.Epimanes said:I have a daughter yup. She's def not ugly. 5'6 .. 125lbs dirty blonde hair well past her shoulders. She's currently not interested in dating as she feels it will impair her ability and distract her from graduating a year early. (Grade 10 doing grade 11 courses and still getting straight A's). She hunts with me and does martial arts on the side with her favorite part being grappling and pressure point take downs. (Actually used them on me and got me good once when I wasn't prepared for it haha)
She tells me all the guys she knows are not mature enough. Too busy making fun of bodily functions and not very ambitious. She wants a guy who has similar goals and wants to help her get a ranch so she can board horses so she's working towards a career to help get her there without the need of financial support from a guy. She has had some guys hit on her but she intimidates them so most don't approach and the ones who do have not peaked her interest.
She will def have her pick of men that's for sure... I almost feel sorry for the guy she dates.. If he does something she doesn't like.. Look out. Haha
Her standards are really high... Besides... Already she's doing behaving better than my wife and I, cuz my wife started dating me at 15 ... And gave it up to me at 16. My daughter says to me "I don't wana end up like you guys .. Preggo at 18" so good for her glad she PLANS on being better than us. Can only hope.
Sounds dangerously close to becoming a future pump & dumpee.Epimanes said:I have a daughter yup. She's def not ugly. 5'6 .. 125lbs dirty blonde hair well past her shoulders. She's currently not interested in dating as she feels it will impair her ability and distract her from graduating a year early. (Grade 10 doing grade 11 courses and still getting straight A's). She hunts with me and does martial arts on the side with her favorite part being grappling and pressure point take downs. (Actually used them on me and got me good once when I wasn't prepared for it haha)
Sounds like my type of girl... If she comes home one day saying she made a new "friend," don't be surprised to find us doing some "exploring..."Epimanes said:I have a daughter yup. She's def not ugly. 5'6 .. 125lbs dirty blonde hair well past her shoulders. She's currently not interested in dating as she feels it will impair her ability and distract her from graduating a year early. (Grade 10 doing grade 11 courses and still getting straight A's). She hunts with me and does martial arts on the side with her favorite part being grappling and pressure point take downs. (Actually used them on me and got me good once when I wasn't prepared for it haha)
Woah woah woah... Now if she does something I don't like... I'll probably turn into that "one who got away" if you don't teach her otherwise, not that I'm judging your parenting. But really the AFC's/Jerk's will dig her or she'll dig the Jerks or the Men but the real Men or upcoming Men will know better.Epimanes said:She will def have her pick of men that's for sure... I almost feel sorry for the guy she dates.. If he does something she doesn't like.. Look out. Haha
That's a phase and it will pass quick. By her Junior or Senior year, she will most likely have dated, gotten a boyfriend, or even lost her virginity. However the second she becomes uptight when it comes to finding a boyfriend or whatever, then she'll turn into a story on this board. But since you're apart of this board, we can at least expect her to be somewhat feminine and an interesting prospect to date in the future.Epimanes said:She tells me all the guys she knows are not mature enough. Too busy making fun of bodily functions and not very ambitious.
I concur Epi. If I were you dude, I would take her to either Mexico/Thailand or Russia and drop her in some sort of school or program there. Its one thing to learn martial arts its quite another to get into you go girl ****. Remind her that education won't make her more attractive to the opposite sex, and when she hits her 20's THAT is all that matters. As many of my wifes single friends are finding out, being educated and single sucks big time. The right kind of education will attract the right kind of mate, get her into a CHEF/Cooking course, beautician school, something inherently woman based... think to yourself, what would a good guy like a mechanic or an engineer want in a woman. If he is bringing home the bacon, she has to be cooking it in the kitchen. A woman with a university education is completely and totally useless to a REAL MAN. A jobless loser won't give a sh1t though... quality men are going to look at her 'car fax' and assess her on her ability to be an LTR. Short term men are going to be doing her in her dorm room.Sounds dangerously close to becoming a future pump & dumpee.
Less you go gurrrrlism kick assery and more traditional feminine pursuits (cooking, cleaning, accountability, nurturing, genuine feminine grace). Nobody gives a sh!t about her leftoid schooling credentials that will pave the way for her make work non productive paper shuffling cubicle "career" or (poor) mimicry of a lethal man. As a matter of fact it's a green light for guys like me and worse to fvck and chuck.
Like I said, teach her how to lock down a lesser alpha/higher beta NOW or she will be crying into kitty litter and red wine before you both know it.
Trust me.
Agreed. Turning your woman into a "great catch" is ultimately the best thing you can do. The woman I have a date with tomorrow is showing these qualities. She cooks, bakes, her parents are still together, comes from a small town, claims to have a high maternal instinct, and knows family values. She has fvck all to her name and makes do with it. This woman has caused me to pull out all the techniques to keep her interested.( . )( . ) said:Less you go gurrrrlism kick assery and more traditional feminine pursuits (cooking, cleaning, accountability, nurturing, genuine feminine grace).
Unless she's tying a cow down to slaughter it for dinner, this is useless.Epimanes said:She hunts with me and does martial arts on the side with her favorite part being grappling and pressure point take downs.
You just contradicted yourself in this sentence. She wants a guy to help her get a ranch, but she's doesn't want financial support from a guy. In other words, use him for whatever she can get out of him, then cut him loose.She wants a guy who has similar goals and wants to help her get a ranch so she can board horses so she's working towards a career to help get her there without the need of financial support from a guy.
now THIS is nothing to be proud of. it means you are raising a bytchy and impatient person. a guy should be lucky to have her, not someone you should feel bad for. these types of girls are the most probable to end up with someone who will beat her. girls always want stronger men than them. now if your girl is the female edition of van damme, guess what type of guys will she choose.Epimanes said:I almost feel sorry for the guy she dates.. If he does something she doesn't like.. Look out. Haha
Quality post.CrimsonPanther said:Epi, if i may say some things from a male perspective and someone who does not have a doughter, but has a little sister and lot of girl friends:
your job as a father is to teach her to be responsible, feminine, someone who wants a PARTNER not a helper, a bad boy, or a peen. things like hunting/shooting with the bow/playing with barbies are fun, but nothing to be proud about. it does not raise nor lower her quality as a woman. the fact that she is a good student / potentially good carrier woman by herself means that you are teaching her how to be a lonely woman. for a woman to dedicate her life to career and work is like a man who knows nothing but how to knit scarfs.
what matters is for her to BE a mature responsible feminine woman, and to find a mature, responsible good man. if you have taught her that, you did a good job, and let her choose what she wants, and with whom she wants. after all she has her own life with her own mind.
the fact that you are afraid from her getting herself an as*hole means you do not trust her enough. from what you described, the perfect man for her would be a feminine man who cooks, stays with the kids as she goes out doing the MANLY things. you have raised a boy in a girl's body. i really hope i see it wrong.
and i tell this as a fellow DJ: be careful not to let your ego blind you to thinking she is perfect. i see that you are proud of her, but i also see that you have put her on an imaginary pedestal, and looking for excuses, because her failing would mean you failing as a parent. your job is not to prevent her from failing and to keep her in a questionably protective bubble. your job is to be there when she fails, and give her consolation and a helping hand.
and if she ends up with a DJ (not some pua lamer), that would be a good thing. a real DJ knows how to make a woman happy, and if he found a quality woman in your daughter, they will be happy. i would be more afraid that she will end up with an afc or a jerk.
anyway it is not my place to give lessons to parents as i am not yet one, but what i saw is that the shortest way to ruin your child's life is to project your dreams onto it and trying to realize them through the child.