You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ok, realist. When you get stripped of everything and maybe rotting in a jail, tell me all about "exotic". Florida's got all the "jungle" anyone could ask for. Massachusetts, of all places, has forest so thick you need a machete to get thru it. The rest of the world is SO envious of what we have here, they'd give up everything they have to be a bum here.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
we have plenty of adventure right here in the US. You have no idea. This place is HUGE and has tons of stuff beyond imagining. Even Google can't list it all. That's why so few of us travel abroad. there's no need to do so.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There is some truth to part of this statement.Sorry but..... No, men are just as *****y as women, and they gossip like women too. All this talk about taking womens rights away screams of insecurity, ive witnessd power triping were i work and.gossiping at the gym. All this women cant be understood and are slaves to their hormones is a bunch of ****, guys are just as much slavez to their hormones, if men wernt, you wouldnt get all these beta males orbiting pretty girls(which in.turn gr8ly boosts their ego)
Men use underhanded tactics like that too, with one difference: they try to pretend their reasoning is logical and based on facts. Whereas some women will just invent bullsh1t that is so otherworldly, it's hard to believe they're serious.This is my breakdown of women in the workplace:
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Gym, in the office, taxi drivers is were i have mainly seen men be bitchy. Men will never wake up and stop feeding womens.ego's, it like Marx expecting.the working.class to revolt against the upper class..... Nice idea, but its just a pipe dream!There is some truth to part of this statement.
If men acted differently towards women and didn't give them so much attention, their egos would not be boosted and thus they would behave differently. Imagine what would happen if men no longer needed women for sex? And then women actually had to start legitimately earning their keep in the world? They would cease to exist in a short number of years, that's what.... But then soon men would too because of the whole reproductive thing.. But my point is, men control it, we have the upper hand because we are the gender that can legitamately get things done in the world and we don't need women to help us..
Women can be understood. You have to take the logic out of your attempts to understand them. Don't look for logic. Don't expect logic. Forgot about logic as an element in what they do.. Then they make complete sense.
Otherwise, men do not gossip like women do, some but far, far less.. Men are not just as b|tchy as women, in general.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
my 3 bosses are 2 betas and a woman as you mentionedThis is my breakdown of women in the workplace:
- Many think they are smarter than everyone else
- Many lie.. Ohhh they lie.. So bad..
- Many want to do bare minimum to keep their jobs by blending in
- Many think they are important and the place could not survive without them, even if they are no more than the lowest level of secretary
- Many will create artificial problems so they can then turn around and "fix" said problems and look\feel productive
- Many will throw anyone under the bus with zero factual basis in order to save their own reputation
- Many have one tool they use to fix most of their problems and do most of their tasks; the telephone
- Many will try to avoid putting things in Email and other forms of writing so they can later play the "he said/she said" game to their advantage
- Many will try to play the roll of 'the boss' and order others around when they have no official rank to do so
- Many will look at the work they are unable to perform as 'below them anyway' to try and justify not doing it and having someone else do it
- Many will get promoted by white knight men who fall for their tactics and think they might get their c0ck heads wet by doing so. Then once permoted the women permote other women. And so on. And so on.. Until women are running the whole place all the way to the top.. They might leave a weak beta male or two in charge of some areas just to have the brain power somewhere (LL calls this the ****roach effect, they multiply like roaches and take over)
COVER YOUR A$$!! COVER YOUR A$$!! COVER YOUR A$$!!
*Many = 90-95%
Dumb **** coworker today: Zinc4, you want to get up and help us putting out these new pamphlets (in a demanding and loud bossy tone).Dumb **** coworker today: Zinc4, you want to get up and help us putting out these new pamphlets (in a demanding and loud bossy tone).
Me: ok
Three mins later, I sit down.
Dumb bossy **** coworker: oh....so you are just quit?
Me: I'm dealing with something important right now.
Dumb bossy coworker: I'm going to leave these here then you can start putting them out.
Me: totally ignore her while browsing my phone
Five mins later I stand up towards her and another chubby sized female coworker.....
She raises her voice, you know what me and bla bla will do it you just go over there.
These ****s are literally driving me crazy....only one more week of it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.