"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you want to read just one thing from this site, read this!

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This is the nine parts taken from Anti-dumps posts and reposted by pook with his insights. Great reading, really great.


Anti-Dump's Machine (Part I: Interest Level)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39729

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part II: More Interest Level)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39769

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part 3: You BUY a relationship, not BUILD one)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39785

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part IV: Embrace ACTION, Woman's Weak Spot)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39887

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part V: Women and Information)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39888

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VI: Three Words To Change Your Life!)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=40188

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VII: Become a Mystery!)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=40241

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VIII: Approaching Women)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=40347

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part IX: ALWAYS Be Prepared!)
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=40698


Lifeforce
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A thread title that actually lives up to its name.

The best stuff i've read on the board I think...
 

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That's quite the summary there - I can't believe that entire series isn't even in the bible, much less the dedicated section that it deserves. I barely come here anymore, but it's nice to have a fresh look at A-D's stuff.

Wow, I feel like a real geezer now (after realizing I read most of that stuff when it was brand new).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thanks for gathering em all up for us! :)
 

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Bump.
 

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this is great pook thanks for roundin this stuff up. you need some sort of nobel peacey prize or somthing for your work
 

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Forgetting Anti-Dump?

Thanks everyone for the response to this thread.

I truly believe that Anti-Dump deserves this cheering, not Pook. It seems that he is left in the shadow of Pook just because he reposted it. Anti-Dumps machine is what the title says, Anti-Dump's creation, something as simple as it is geniual, and most importantly, his own work.

Anti-Dump is one of the most underrated Don Juans I know off, his stuff is misunderstood by many and thus it never have seen the full glory of the knowledge his posts contain. I suggest you do a search and look at his old stuff. Then you'll realize the greatness of his tips and give him the credit he so rightfully deserve.

I too was here at the beginning at the old days when the posts where other than "I met this HB 8 and she looked at my knee, what does this mean everyone?". At that time there were discussions that lifted the common knowledge of this board. Everything was new, every discovery was a thrill. Nowadays every bit of knowledge is reposted and reposted. This site is turning into a mockery of what it used to be. Clueless, forgive my language, idiots destroy it with their stupid questions.

The sense of discovery has been replaced by a path of all-knowing. Everyone must know everything before they do anything. People discuss things even without trying it out in the field. The knowledge is used to become more enlighted in a philosophic way, to wage wars on message boards and boost about the knowledge they possess. Wisdom has been replaced with knowledge.

This is sad, the knowledge discovered by our oldest members wasn't meant to be used as swords and shields in a internet war on who is the smartest "DJ". It was meant for the growth of your soul. The change of a life. I do not know who you are, if this describtion above fit you then think, think about what you are doing. You can play with your wooden swords all day and boost about your prowess but you will never be a warrior until you have seen the battlefield, actually feeling the blood pump in your body, taste the sweat of fear on your forehead, felt the horror within your heart. The everyday will seem so much calmer than before, every trouble will be dealt with peace of mind, without thinking about techniques.

Then you get the respect for yourself, and for the things you learn. Everything you have learnt here will disappear into your mind, it will be you and you will never more have to think about it. You can never comprehend what you are reading until you enlighten yourself in the field. It is there that the wisdom will be found. Remember that techniques is a by-product of the search for wisdom and happiness. This is why you get the techniques you need if you improve your life and doesn't need to learn them from others.

Even soo, at some point you'll start to think beyond this message board. On your life, since women isn't your primal force of life any longer. Life is the focus of your life. Life is what we seek with our existance. This is Don Juan, the state of mind pook talked about. Anti dump showed us one way to help you reach that. He showed us how to find someone you could love, and be loved for who you are by hightening the standards on your own and for the person you meet. I follow his way since I believe it is one of the things I seek and I accept it as my truth.

I suggest we all raise our cups in honour of Anti-Dump!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bump

To add: I'm not too sure, but pretty sure pook was one of many that learned from Anti-Dump's advice and posts.

Cheers to both.
 

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Wow!!! I remember this stuff when it first came out. Great stuff!




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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If I had read this when I first came to sosuave, I think I either would have closed the browser and never came back or started dating the girl who was very interested in me.

This should be pasted on the home page of sosuave.com

It would have saved me years of trouble, although... I don't have regrets for doing the things I've done either.
 

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Anti-dump is some of the best stuff I've read anywhere. Everyone should read this.
 

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id highly appreciate links that work, thank you
 

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DJVladdy said:
id highly appreciate links that work, thank you
It's all in the DJ Bible. Link's below.
 
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