"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"If you want short-term stints, don't express long-term values"

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A co-worker, who's also a bartender, shared that tidbit with me. He's a bit crazy, so I don't know what I can believe with this guy, but his point was that guys who illustrate long-term qualities don't't get the easy/quick sex, while those that don't usually get the one-night stands but despoil themselves of any long term shot.

How true is this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It is a true enough.
 

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It's pretty true. If you just want to bang her, then you'd better cut to the chase. Escalate and make a move. If you are considering getting into an LTR, you should consider holding off a little bit because you might trigger her anti-slvt defense.
 

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What about in terms of initial communication and behavior? Are there specific pitfalls or things you say and do that can trigger long-term as opposed to short-term response and compatibility?
 

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AmIAFC said:
What about in terms of initial communication and behavior? Are there specific pitfalls or things you say and do that can trigger long-term as opposed to short-term response and compatibility?

I think it would be easy enough for women to pick up on. Something like the badboy and goodguy types for example. Badboys want some bedroom action and goodguys/nice guys want to take things slower and have a relationship.


So I think women looking for one night stands would look for a flirty guy who is sexually aggressive and maybe a bit ****y.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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AmIAFC said:
A co-worker, who's also a bartender, shared that tidbit with me. He's a bit crazy, so I don't know what I can believe with this guy, but his point was that guys who illustrate long-term qualities don't't get the easy/quick sex, while those that don't usually get the one-night stands but despoil themselves of any long term shot.

How true is this?
i dunno about you guys but sometimes i 'illustrate long-term qualities' just to get laid (eg. saying nonensical romantic stuff like i miss you blah blah blah). It just depends who im dealing with.
 

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It's fairly true. If you are percieved as boyfriend material it's not uncommon for women who would normally give up sex pretty quickly to hold out to get you as a boyfriend. The inverse is also true, they might jump into bed with you in no time flat and not consider you to be long-term relationship material, even if you did want that as your goal. However, the latter perception is much easier to change than the former IMO. Guys who have had actual relationships that spawned from ONS are examples of this.
 
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