backbreaker
Master Don Juan
would you tell the police?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I grew up in a rough area (actually not that far from the club)... you don't have to tell me twice. I know someone who got killed (when I was younger) because the guy THOUGHT he snitched on him on a drug bust.so do it anonymously - untraceable to you/your home
honestly.. not really. But wouldn't you want to clear your conscience knowing you DID make a difference...?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Actually you should report it ASAP, if you don`t and the cops find out that you were at the scene, they can pin this whole BS on YOU. It`s prob too late to report now since they`ll think your hiding something. People are dumbasses... not reporting a murder is bad... what if the shooter framed you? He could easily leave the gun at your place and testify in court. If your so worried about your life, buy a gun and then join the witness protection service.backbreaker said:what I am saying is I try to stay out of other people's business. It's gotten me this far.
How do you know that he didn`t take you lisence car number down? He can easily trace it back to your parents house and plant it there. That`s why just join the witness protection ASAP until you go back... also if you identify him in jail they don`t need you to be in court. So I did read the post thanks...but hey if the guy gets caught and you get invovled... your looking at neglecting to report a crime, which could get you jail time. Goodluck with that.backbreaker said:how can he leave it at my PLACE? I don't live there. I live half way across the country. i was at a night club.
I have a gun, but it's half way across the country.
people will do anything to protect themselves. A crazy guy like that I treat teh same way as a woman. Meaning, throw all rationality out of the window.
if he saw me again and he knew I told the police, do you really think he is oging to take all the time to depher all that information? No, he's going to make sure I'm not a witness against him in his soon to be court case.
I'm not telling the police that he beat a guy up.. he's looking at a capital murder rep.. here that's the needle. So again...you think I'm going to get in the way of a man who literarly has nothing to loose and everything to gain?
me getting framed is the least of my concerns. no fingerprints, and he never saw me... at least I don't think. and you ovbiously didn't read the post
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
you still didn't take the time to read the post.How do you know that he didn`t take you lisence car number down? He can easily trace it back to your parents house and plant it there.
I didn't grow up in a bad city or anything but I also knew someone who got killed over something similar. Actually, he was brutally murdered, and they never found out who did it. No suspects. I mean, most of us knew the gang who was responsible, but no one was going to say anything or get killed too. And no one knew who specifically pulled the trigger. I'm white by the way, and the guy I knew as also white.backbreaker said:I grew up in a rough area (actually not that far from the club)... you don't have to tell me twice. I know someone who got killed (when I was younger) because the guy THOUGHT he snitched on him on a drug bust.
lol you should have said you had a RENTAL CAR... don`t blaim me for assuming the worst...backbreaker said:you still didn't take the time to read the post.
first off.. i"m a grown ass man. I don't have **** in my families name. even if i did it doesn't matter because it's a RENTAL CAR. i'd like to see them plant a gun at Enterprise. Plus there were 5 or so cars out side, it's a regular neighborhood, just parked like in normal places. I doubt he had the ware withal to just start jotting numbers down and planting ****. your post is stupid and immature.
even if he did so happen to find out where my parents there... my finger prints aren't on it
if I was going to join witness protection I just won't say ****.
I'll take neglecting to report a crime over a bullet in the head any day of the week. I know a couple of very good laywers.. that's the least of my concern.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.