If you didn't have sexual urges

[Hoodie]

If you didn't have any sexual urges towards women, would you still pursue them and hang around with them just for fun?

Or would you use this new sense of freedom for other pursuits?

 

[crowolf]

I would probably work first on fixing my estrogen/testosterone levels.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I naturally connect better with women in general.

 

[Mike32ct]

Absolutely. My drive is less these days, but I have always enjoyed the company of women friends. But I understand that’s just my personality. It’s not for everybody.

 

[Westminster]

Tell you what - I sometimes think my life would have been a lot easier if I hadn't had them.

 

[CornbreadFed]

If you do not like women, why are you spending time dating them? Approaching relationships with bitterness or resentment will never lead to success with women. At that point, it is worth exploring why you feel such anger toward the opposite sex, whether that means seeking professional guidance or reflecting more deeply on your own feelings and sexuality.

 

[MatureDJ]

I can't fathom not having such urges - in the same way someone starving will always dream of food.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

But we do...and we don't really know what would replace them if we didn't, so I'm not sure there is any answer that will be valid.

 

[Vanderdonck]

I don't pursue them. I attract them.

 

[inquisitor]

If you didn't have any sexual urges towards women

...then I thank God I do.

 

[DJ Novice]

Unless she was the mother of my children what would be the point? She would gain your money, energy, attention and time. You would gain absolutely nothing. I’d rather enjoy time by myself, with my male friends and/or my children.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

If you didn't have any sexual urges towards women, would you still pursue them and hang around with them just for fun?

Or would you use this new sense of freedom for other pursuits?

Just getting the dopamine rush from women expressing attraction towards one is enough to enough to keep one in the game.

 

[zekko]

I naturally connect better with women in general.

I like women, they're not as competitive as men, and they fill a different niche than men do, so you don't automatically feel a rivalry with them. A lot of men walk around like they have to put on this hard front, or like they have something to prove all the time, or like they have to be the Alpha Dog, which can get tiresome.

 

[Bingo-Player]

How long is a piece of string

Some women can offer great alternative perspectives on things , others are just dramatic and materialistic

In my early 20's i worked in an office full of over- the- hill middle aged women

The conversations they would have were enough to make your brain melt.

Every decision they had to make was this Long drawn out process taking into account arbitrary factors that had nothing to do with anything

Spending 40 hours a week in that environment .....It was a dark time in my past

 

[The Duke]

I would still enjoy them for evenings out, dinner, nice trips, etc. I also value the support that some(very few) offer.

 

[plumber]

this can only be answered completely by someone with no urges. the urge is so built in. most guys would never have the same conversation with another guy that they do with a woman. and it is because of the urge.

try having lunch with and talking with an elderly grandmother that is not attractive. can find lots of wisdom.

 

[BaronOfHair]

If you didn't have any sexual urges towards women, would you still pursue them and hang around with them just for fun?

Of course!!! And if I was unable to digest red meat, I'd still visit the world's top steak houses

 

[inquisitor]

this can only be answered completely by someone with no urges. the urge is so built in.

Not even that it's so built in. We are simply wired that way already.

The closest thing we have to guys without sexual urges are those taking hormone-altering medication, mainly with the purpose of being trans... and somehow, despite these meds, they're still very sexually charged.

If you didn't have any sexual urges towards women, would you still pursue them and hang around with them just for fun?

Or would you use this new sense of freedom for other pursuits?

If I didn't have any sexual urges towards women, then I'm either an extraterrestrial alien, or that is just equivalent to me being completely sexually disinterested in another woman, in which case: of course, I will still hang around with them for fun, but no, I won't pursue them in the obvious, sexual sense.

That said, we already have that "new sense of freedom" you're saying. We can decide already who to pursue or not.

We can decide if we do want to pursue women, in which case we will devote time, patience, and effort, or we can decide not to want to pursue women, so we can then focus on our other pursuits.

 

[Travel memoir21]

The same thing I'd likely do based on who I am if my goals of finding a wife, being successful in running my business and achieving several lifegoals I've set for myself don't pan out later in life. I'd likely join a monastic life be a Monk, either a Hare Krishna, Orthodox or a Catholic Friar, I'm not sure which faith to join so I'd have to decide which branch is the best for me, but I think it maybe a calling based on who I am and my convictions. I can live comfortably on my military pension and social security checks for the rest of my life so why not do something spiritually productive while I'm at it?

 

[zekko]

this can only be answered completely by someone with no urges. the urge is so built in.

You're right, the urge is very much built in. But even that aside, I think women are so aesthetically pleasing. I can look at a cat and think that it is a beautiful cat, and there's no "urge" involved. Same thing with women, they are very attractive creatures.

I'd likely join a monastic life be a Monk, either a Hare Krishna, Orthodox or a Catholic Friar

I've always been fascinated with that kind of life, maybe because I don't think I could handle it, I'm too selfish. Even with the platonic lifestyle, I don't think I could get past the diet. I was watching a documentary on these Catholic monks, and all they basically ate was vegetable stew and bread (no butter). Pretty much just what they could grow. I'm too much of a carnivore.