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if you are FA, even if you are above average, is impossible to get a girlfriend

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is basically impossible to get a girlfriend if you are foreveralone, even if you are slightly above average, is not possible. I would argue that even if you are really good looking, it can still be quite difficult.

I was always difficult for me to make friends due to being shy and quiet, despite this, I still had some friends back in my home country, but after immigrated here a few years, I haven't made one single legit friend, all I have are acquaintances which I never see. I may have hung out with a couple of them a few time, but it never leads to a real friendship. Everyone here keeps to their little groups and never let anyone in.

I had 2 latina girlfriends back in my home country, yet somehow here, in Miami, the most superficial city ever, is basically impossible. Lots of stuckup bitches thinking they are hot ****, getting plastic surgery, faggots in debt, driving BMWs, mercedes, using roids, usually cubans. Everyone is faking it, and looks, money and material things are a a priority. If you drive an average car or don't have money, you are looked down on

I have gotten looks from women all my life. I have approached american girls who gave me looks, most already had boyfriends, went on a date with a couple, never leads to anything. I'm just a regular guy, with a regular job, average car, nothing exciting, now I'm focusing on saving as much money, have like 20k. The only thing I have going for me is 6 feet tall and a decent face. Now I'm gycelling hard as fuk, but with poverty results, i want so bad to use roids, but side effects not worth it

Tinder is a waste of time, never led to anything, some girls message me, but they are unattractive, so I usually see an escort every few months to take the stress off
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The game isn't for, nor is it in you. You don't have the mental fortitude to persevere through the learning curve to get good with women, so continue trickin'.

As far as the roids, watch some YouTube videos by Rich Piana. He's been using roids for 25 years and has advice on how to do it properly, plus he has a line of products that meant to be use in conjunction with the roids.
 

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Can we create a separate forum for people with horrible grammar?

LOL

Funny thing is I completely understood everything OP said and was able to read it fluently with full comprehension. I spend way too much time on forums.


OP you are being negative. Man the fk up. Get ripped stop eating like chit lift heavy AND with high volume. Always go for that fkin PUMP mate. sell whatever POS car you are driving and upgrade to something clean/luxury. Car trade in + 5k cash and monthly payments will leave you with something nice im sure. Or get a cheaper/bad ass 4x4 pickup truck and go that route. bishes love trucks plus you can do chit in em.

You should be thanking GOD you are in Miami...I see its very superficial but come on man...theres gotta be college hotties and "regular" people..hell maybe even a poverty hot ratchet type chick IDK bro. Figure it out. But at least your not in some midwest chithole like iowa.

Bro you said your problem yourself, your an average guy, average life job car NOTHING exciting...and you live in MIAMI one of the most poppin cities out there (not without its problems of course)...you need to step your game up homie...you are in a BIG pond..and you are just a lil fish right now...get sharked up bro. I could imagine Miami having alot of opportunity.
 

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When I was in the Army I had a Brigade commander that I just fvcking hated. But he taught me a valuable lesson. He used to go over the top trying to make stuff 'look' good. You could be running the best live fire training range in history, but if he drove up and the gate guard's boots were dirty, and he didn't know what was going on. He would CHEW YOUR @SS.

His motto was "Gate Guard = Victory". He used to fvcking hate when he would pull up on a range and ask the guard what is going on. And the guard would say, "I don't know sir... my sergeant just told me to guard this gate."

Okay now here is the lesson: NO matter how good you really are, no one will notice if you don't look the part. It's not enough to be good, you have to LOOK good as well. To him that gate guard was the FIRST thing anyone saw... the immediate impression will be whatever he looks like and what he does.

You could be the best freaking guy in the whole GD world. But if you slouch around and act like a clueless idiot that THAT is what people will think you are. If you are waiting for women to intuitively notice how great you are, then you indeed will be alone forever. Don't fake it, but your outer shell should reflect your inner self. If you are good, then you better fvcking look good.
 

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First impressions is key..... Work on your look = Diet, Training, Cardio
2nd impressions is attitude = Be happy and find a social activity to interact (meetup.com)
3rd is the frame = Solid and consistant

They are interwined..... but you have to know that you are not ordinary, you are you, you have a value, you improve your look and your health the brain will follow.

People will notice you.

Ask your escort advice too if you don't believe us
 

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this is a case of someone that wants to be miserable and drag everyone else down with them. I don't think I've ever seen anyone here complain so much, yet learn so little.
He has a slvt hate link at the bottom of his post, not really surprised. That place is just a bunch of whiners circle jerking each other.
 

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If scoring is so damned vital to you, just move to SE asia for a year or so. You'll have piles of girls clamoring for you, day and night, just by being a "foreigner".
 

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When I was in the Army I had a Brigade commander that I just fvcking hated. But he taught me a valuable lesson. He used to go over the top trying to make stuff 'look' good. You could be running the best live fire training range in history, but if he drove up and the gate guard's boots were dirty, and he didn't know what was going on. He would CHEW YOUR @SS.

His motto was "Gate Guard = Victory". He used to fvcking hate when he would pull up on a range and ask the guard what is going on. And the guard would say, "I don't know sir... my sergeant just told me to guard this gate."

Okay now here is the lesson: NO matter how good you really are, no one will notice if you don't look the part. It's not enough to be good, you have to LOOK good as well. To him that gate guard was the FIRST thing anyone saw... the immediate impression will be whatever he looks like and what he does.

You could be the best freaking guy in the whole GD world. But if you slouch around and act like a clueless idiot that THAT is what people will think you are. If you are waiting for women to intuitively notice how great you are, then you indeed will be alone forever. Don't fake it, but your outer shell should reflect your inner self. If you are good, then you better fvcking look good.
1.) Follow @RangerMIke
2.) Make sure you have ink in your printer
3.) Tape his posts to your mirrors

These are not just words but concepts that should be meditated on

Your lack of frame is 100 percent your problem. Your energy, even on the page is unattractive. Woe is me attitude is so far beneath you and other humans that's its sickening. Literally, feels like a disease that makes people avoid people like that. A plaque of darkness that no one wants to catch or find out why you have.

Ideas for help( long before you start to interact or fix issues with woman)

Martial arts training

Gym

Surfing

Mental health therapy CBT or talk therapy. Literature at least.

Meditating to be present in the moment. You wreak of regret and nostalgia of the past, and anxiety about the future. Carpe diem!!!!!!

Police auxiliary training or Firefighting 101

Bartending

Stop taking the easy road of escorts. Its a slippery slope of indignation. Youll never strive to get better.

READ! ALOT! Open your world with concepts you never thought existed and get out of your own head. Its to dark there right now.

Learn about mens, fashion, wine, cigars and cologne. Learn to look like an expert gate man


Do the work. Anything. The girls will be drawn in to the new you without you even having to try.

You can PM me if youd like
 

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Can we create a separate forum for people with horrible grammar?
I wrote this thread fairly fast, right before going to sleep.

I don't care about making grammar mistakes on forums, because I know people will still understand me.

English is my second language.

I could probably write better than you do, if I took the time and really wanted to.

I would like to see you write on forums where the main written language is not your own.
 

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LOL

Funny thing is I completely understood everything OP said and was able to read it fluently with full comprehension. I spend way too much time on forums.


OP you are being negative. Man the fk up. Get ripped stop eating like chit lift heavy AND with high volume. Always go for that fkin PUMP mate. sell whatever POS car you are driving and upgrade to something clean/luxury. Car trade in + 5k cash and monthly payments will leave you with something nice im sure. Or get a cheaper/bad ass 4x4 pickup truck and go that route. bishes love trucks plus you can do chit in em.

You should be thanking GOD you are in Miami...I see its very superficial but come on man...theres gotta be college hotties and "regular" people..hell maybe even a poverty hot ratchet type chick IDK bro. Figure it out. But at least your not in some midwest chithole like iowa.

Bro you said your problem yourself, your an average guy, average life job car NOTHING exciting...and you live in MIAMI one of the most poppin cities out there (not without its problems of course)...you need to step your game up homie...you are in a BIG pond..and you are just a lil fish right now...get sharked up bro. I could imagine Miami having a lot of opportunity.
I'm fully aware of all these things, you haven't said anything I don't know.

Anyway, yeah, Miami is very superficial. People here are all about who makes the most money, who drives the most luxurious car, who has the best apartments, it almost seems as if everyone is making it and have lots of money, when in reality is facade, many of them are in huge debt, living paycheck to paycheck, most guys are on roids, women getting plastic surgery, stuck up women everywhere, many women who have money are dancers, escorts, etc it sucks.

You say Miami, you could have lots of opportunities, but only if you stand out from the crowd. Most people here, not only have more money but look better than your average white boy from other American states lol

Yes, there are lots of attractive women here, but you will never have a chance with them unless you have looks, money, status. In fact, the other days, I was in Miami, went to starbucks, and saw a girl, she was probably 18 years old, getting out of her car, going to starbucks, she had a ****ing BMW series 7, and it was new, my mind was ****ing blown, the first thing that popped to mind, is she must be an escort or something wtf
 

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Would make sense, why don't have a lady.

Since I lost weight... I get alot of looks/elevator eyes. But no one wants to buy. They're all window shoppers.

I dont mind being alone either, though I plan on having someone special in my life.
 

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but you will never have a chance with them unless you have looks, money, status.
Nonsense! How long have been reading on this site?

Betas believe this stuff.
 

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Stop complaining that you 'don't have enough money'. I'm hearing this far too much from you.

Game > Looks > Money.

Providers are not respected by women.
This is absolute BS. Women want resources. Men want fertility. Together they have made the greatest families for thousands of years. Get a job.

Millionaire > Worker Bee > Rake > Pretty Boy living with Mommy.

At age 29 a man is in his physical prime, but if he reaches 35-40 and can't earn $100K+ he's not going to have much success with women.
 
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but you will never have a chance with them if you doubt yourself
Fixed it for you.

The number 1 problem? Your attitude.

You lack confidence and think you're not good enough. So yeah, you're right. You don't have a chance. You already lost.

You're using looks, money, and status as an excuse. News flash, your looks and status are largely based on what you make of it. If you're classically unattractive but are a confident and charismatic... you're gonna be appealing and have high status. And money is not important as you make it out to be either.

Make the best with what you have. I guarantee you, you're not even close.
 

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Create a journal post. There's plenty of guys here who will help out with advice if they can see you actually doing something. And if you really are a latino surely you speak Spanish and can dance. Go to a beginner salsa or whatever other style beginner class and you ll b an instant alpha. Even with the help of so suave I've always been clueless around woman and yet I have a constant stream of them turning up in my life. My niche is nice guy with an edge and more interesting than most. You definitely have a niche, you just have to find it.
 

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I had 2 latina girlfriends back in my home country, yet somehow here, in Miami, the most superficial city ever, is basically impossible. Lots of stuckup *****es thinking they are hot ****, getting plastic surgery, faggots in debt, driving BMWs, mercedes, using roids, usually cubans. Everyone is faking it, and looks, money and material things are a a priority. If you drive an average car or don't have money, you are looked down on
Time to go home pal.
 

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Yes, there are lots of attractive women here, but you will never have a chance with them unless you have looks, money, status.
All I'm seeing is a bunch of whining. What I'm not seeing is detailed experiences of the women you approach, your conversation with them, your attempt at getting their number. Going on Tinder isn't classified as approaching women.

You need to get your ass out there and work on approaching and conversing with women instead of sitting around, whining about how you can't get a date off tinder. If you can't hold an interesting conversation with a woman in real life, you're just going to continue crashing and burning with Tinder. In other words, get the fvck off Tinder and get yourself some REAL life experience. If you genuinely want to improve this part of your life, you'll do the work required. But if you want to remain a whiny little pvssy, then go do it elsewhere.
 

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is basically impossible to get a girlfriend if you are foreveralone, even if you are slightly above average, is not possible. I would argue that even if you are really good looking, it can still be quite difficult.

I was always difficult for me to make friends due to being shy and quiet, despite this, I still had some friends back in my home country, but after immigrated here a few years, I haven't made one single legit friend, all I have are acquaintances which I never see. I may have hung out with a couple of them a few time, but it never leads to a real friendship. Everyone here keeps to their little groups and never let anyone in.

I had 2 latina girlfriends back in my home country, yet somehow here, in Miami, the most superficial city ever, is basically impossible. Lots of stuckup *****es thinking they are hot ****, getting plastic surgery, faggots in debt, driving BMWs, mercedes, using roids, usually cubans. Everyone is faking it, and looks, money and material things are a a priority. If you drive an average car or don't have money, you are looked down on

I have gotten looks from women all my life. I have approached american girls who gave me looks, most already had boyfriends, went on a date with a couple, never leads to anything. I'm just a regular guy, with a regular job, average car, nothing exciting, now I'm focusing on saving as much money, have like 20k. The only thing I have going for me is 6 feet tall and a decent face. Now I'm gycelling hard as fuk, but with poverty results, i want so bad to use roids, but side effects not worth it

Tinder is a waste of time, never led to anything, some girls message me, but they are unattractive, so I usually see an escort every few months to take the stress off
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I can relate a lot to what you talk about, myself being latino as well and I also have been living in Miami for 7 years, I do admit that the culture shock is quite tough and it did get to me at the beginning when I arrived here. However, its how you improve yourself, and how you work around with what you have. What I mean is for example here in Miami there is tons of superficial, plastic and stuck up women but not everywhere. You have to know where you hang out, if you go to expensive south beach clubs you know what you will find there. Now, if you go to meetups for a sport or hobby you like, to church (if your religious at all), or frequent a starbucks, barnes and nobles etc. and just start normal conversations without expectations your results might improve. I cant say I'm a successful guy with women and perhaps that why I'm here, but the complaining about the place, accounting women for everything and all other external factors for not having success, I got over that already. Work on yourself all the time and in your spare time practice approaching anywhere with no expectations. Now, I am all in for any so suave members in the S. Florida area to hangout and perhaps help each other, have fun and meet women if any of you are interested we could all benefit from it.
 
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