"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you are a shy guy I want your opinion on something

Which of these topics would you like to learn more about?


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legolas

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Hi guys,

I used to be a very shy guy for most of my high school and college days. I had many girl friends and crushes on girls but didn't really have a girlfriend. I didn't really date until in college and even then insecurity and shyness just made it really hard. Well recently I've done a 180. Not only did I go out, talk to people freely with no anxiety and made some good friends, I also met a girl and went on a few dates with her, all with effortless easy and no anxiety. I had a HUGE "aha" moment about myself, a big insight into my mind and from that day everything has changed. You can spend countless hours in therapy or you can just have an epiphany!!

I want to help as many shy guys as I can but I cannot do it one on one since I really don't have the time or the resources for personal counseling, but I'm thinking of putting together some materials and giving some of these ideas away for free here. I need you guys to help me with what you want to learn. What topics would you like covered in these reports?

Here's my curent running list of topics. Please tell me which one of these appeals to you the most:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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eaglez1177

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Im usually pretty good with most of the aspects of my game and can get girls easily, but the only problem I have sometimes is when im around a really hot chick I tend to get a little nervous and I have trouble thinking about what I shud say, so I voted the last one.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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trajhenkhet02

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The leading help categories aren't half bad either. I could use improvement in any of those fields no matter how this pole goes down.
 

horaholic

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If you have core confidence, everything else on that list comes naturally.
 

Lexington

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horaholic said:
If you have core confidence, everything else on that list comes naturally.
That's what I've learned.

It takes time to develop, but this is a very important realization to make. Having core confidence is all about doing what's right by you and not giving a crap what others think. It's about having internal instead of external validation. So if a girl rejects you, it doesn't affect you at all.

To be honest, I've only recently come to this realization and my core confidence is still very much a work in progress. At the moment I'm trying to stomp out negative, defeatist thoughts and replace them with healthy ones that will improve my core confidence.
 

legolas

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Wow you guys are awesome!! If I had know I'd get this kind of response I would have made it single choice rather than multiple choice. Anyway, while I agree that confidence is powerful and very important, I don't agree that it's everything. I will prepare an article as promised and the first one will be on how to attract others effortlessly into your life. It is easier than it sounds but it requires a lot of work upfront.

Don't want to give too much away, but some of the concepts covered will be:
-What is the difference between regular dating and lifestyle dating
-How to design the ideal lifestyle for you complete with a compelling vision
-How to figure out which types of people you really want to attract (including which types of girls) and where to find them
-How to create a perceptual character that draws people to you
..and much more
 
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