From what I can tell, there are four categories of men in the dating pool:
1. the top 20%. Basically, women only find 1 out of 5 men physically attractive. It is possible (no guarantees) to work your way into this category by becoming very physically fit, hair style and wardrobe, etc. You know the drill.
2. social circle boyfriend. It will take some time. A year, maybe longer. Basically, you'll have to stick around in one or more social circles for an extended period of time until you are chosen. You'll have to pay to keep her around, and prove your ability to be viable financially for her if you want to stay with her long term. The less attractive you are, the more you'll have to pay.
3. struggling to find a girlfriend. Basically same as cat2 but without success as of yet.
4. not actively trying/incel. A large percentage of gamer kids, online and board gaming (D&D) fall into this category.
However, there is hope yet, as their social circles still include some significant percentage of females who are into gaming. A not insignificant number of marriages and relationships result from these social circles. Yes, women are a minority in these social circles, but then again, women are generally a minority of the patrons in a bar or club as well.
5. hardcore incels. More of a meme rather than a sizable percentage of the population. As noted in cat4, those labeled "incels" are often attempting to find relationships surreptitiously through gaming communities and social circles, with some limited success.