Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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If wellbeing for men is defined by peace and stability, how is wellbeing defined for women?

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Hi guys!
You know that feeling of "well-being" when you, as men, have these things: freedom, independence, but above all, stability.
Be it financial stability, emotional stability. Simply a period of your life that's in order.

Well, at this point, I was wondering what was similar, but for women. What brings women that same sense of well-being that a man can feel trought stability?
If a man seeks those things in his life, what will women seek?

And this post goes beyond everything social media or anything else tries to teach, and show us about women. (Travels, Luxury, Validation, Attention seeking, etc)

In my personal POV, I thought it might be: having someone (a person) or something (financial resources) that allows the woman to have very frequent physical experiences, therefore material, but also immaterial, such as mental experiences.
But I don't know how to precisely define them as I do it for men
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Getting past the delusion that they're going to "manifest" their way out of all the heinous sh-t that's rampant on this planet would be a terrific start
 

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Totally depends on what woman, what phase she is in and ofcourse what man is available.

The same woman who wants stability today might want excitement tomorrow. And if we're being honest; one of the biggest issues that men have with women is that they want excitement and adventure.

Yes, there will be plenty of women who say they don't want that, but look at the dating market...and even in strict religious settings the narrative always is about women needing to be morally sound.

A woman can also easily get the best of both worlds; I've known about plenty who sold sex and yet had a steady bf on the side.
 

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Hi guys!
You know that feeling of "well-being" when you, as men, have these things: freedom, independence, but above all, stability.
Be it financial stability, emotional stability. Simply a period of your life that's in order.

Well, at this point, I was wondering what was similar, but for women. What brings women that same sense of well-being that a man can feel trought stability?
If a man seeks those things in his life, what will women seek?

And this post goes beyond everything social media or anything else tries to teach, and show us about women. (Travels, Luxury, Validation, Attention seeking, etc)

In my personal POV, I thought it might be: having someone (a person) or something (financial resources) that allows the woman to have very frequent physical experiences, therefore material, but also immaterial, such as mental experiences.
But I don't know how to precisely define them as I do it for men
Being mastered by a man.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nobody is ever satisfied with what they have.

Everybody always wants more.

It is the human condition.

For men, however, this requires consistent effort and risk.

So, many men accept the delusion that once they get a certain income level, relationship status, they can cruise on auto pilot, since continuous forward momentum is tough.

But for women, the desire for "more" is expressed through a desire for more and more attention from other men.

This requires much less effort.

Which is why women leave relationships that men think are in perfect order.

The man feels a sense of stability (which is really a cope to avoid continuous forward momentum) while the woman craves more more more.
 

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All she ever wanted was the love of her own child

Kid Rock is supposed to perform an alternative halftime show for the super bowl. He probably won't sing that song. He has another one "if it ain't statutory, it ain't for me" about underage girls. He probably won't sing that one either.
 

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Women can never be happy without a man who figures out what she needs to be happy.
 

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Hmmmm. I think the number one for women generally was identified by @BackInTheGame78

Security.

You need a secure environment to be vulnerable enough to be pregnant, give birth, and nurse babies. So I think biologically and psychologically security is far an away hard wired into women as a need. In my life I experience a great deal of satisfaction and have a grateful attitude for where I am and what I have (and many have much more than I do)....but I feel secure in my own life, I feel I have provided for my children and myself and prepared my young people to function competently in the world.

Love. A woman needs to feel loved.

You give her a sense of security and if she knows she is also loved? She's not going anywhere.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It really depends what stage and how old a woman is in her life. If she’s young, she wants adventure, exploration and going to exciting liberal protests that defends the weak and give back to society etc….the older she gets, the more she wants security. That’s why an early twenties woman who has decent character seems to be a good option for a Man in his early to mid 30s…less drama, low maintenance and they’ll look up to you if you’re a refined gentleman and connoisseur with connections.
 
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