"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If wellbeing for men is defined by peace and stability, how is wellbeing defined for women?

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Hi guys!
You know that feeling of "well-being" when you, as men, have these things: freedom, independence, but above all, stability.
Be it financial stability, emotional stability. Simply a period of your life that's in order.

Well, at this point, I was wondering what was similar, but for women. What brings women that same sense of well-being that a man can feel trought stability?
If a man seeks those things in his life, what will women seek?

And this post goes beyond everything social media or anything else tries to teach, and show us about women. (Travels, Luxury, Validation, Attention seeking, etc)

In my personal POV, I thought it might be: having someone (a person) or something (financial resources) that allows the woman to have very frequent physical experiences, therefore material, but also immaterial, such as mental experiences.
But I don't know how to precisely define them as I do it for men
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Getting past the delusion that they're going to "manifest" their way out of all the heinous sh-t that's rampant on this planet would be a terrific start
 

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Totally depends on what woman, what phase she is in and ofcourse what man is available.

The same woman who wants stability today might want excitement tomorrow. And if we're being honest; one of the biggest issues that men have with women is that they want excitement and adventure.

Yes, there will be plenty of women who say they don't want that, but look at the dating market...and even in strict religious settings the narrative always is about women needing to be morally sound.

A woman can also easily get the best of both worlds; I've known about plenty who sold sex and yet had a steady bf on the side.
 

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Hi guys!
You know that feeling of "well-being" when you, as men, have these things: freedom, independence, but above all, stability.
Be it financial stability, emotional stability. Simply a period of your life that's in order.

Well, at this point, I was wondering what was similar, but for women. What brings women that same sense of well-being that a man can feel trought stability?
If a man seeks those things in his life, what will women seek?

And this post goes beyond everything social media or anything else tries to teach, and show us about women. (Travels, Luxury, Validation, Attention seeking, etc)

In my personal POV, I thought it might be: having someone (a person) or something (financial resources) that allows the woman to have very frequent physical experiences, therefore material, but also immaterial, such as mental experiences.
But I don't know how to precisely define them as I do it for men
Being mastered by a man.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Nobody is ever satisfied with what they have.

Everybody always wants more.

It is the human condition.

For men, however, this requires consistent effort and risk.

So, many men accept the delusion that once they get a certain income level, relationship status, they can cruise on auto pilot, since continuous forward momentum is tough.

But for women, the desire for "more" is expressed through a desire for more and more attention from other men.

This requires much less effort.

Which is why women leave relationships that men think are in perfect order.

The man feels a sense of stability (which is really a cope to avoid continuous forward momentum) while the woman craves more more more.
 

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All she ever wanted was the love of her own child

Kid Rock is supposed to perform an alternative halftime show for the super bowl. He probably won't sing that song. He has another one "if it ain't statutory, it ain't for me" about underage girls. He probably won't sing that one either.
 

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Women can never be happy without a man who figures out what she needs to be happy.
 

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Hmmmm. I think the number one for women generally was identified by @BackInTheGame78

Security.

You need a secure environment to be vulnerable enough to be pregnant, give birth, and nurse babies. So I think biologically and psychologically security is far an away hard wired into women as a need. In my life I experience a great deal of satisfaction and have a grateful attitude for where I am and what I have (and many have much more than I do)....but I feel secure in my own life, I feel I have provided for my children and myself and prepared my young people to function competently in the world.

Love. A woman needs to feel loved.

You give her a sense of security and if she knows she is also loved? She's not going anywhere.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It really depends what stage and how old a woman is in her life. If she’s young, she wants adventure, exploration and going to exciting liberal protests that defends the weak and give back to society etc….the older she gets, the more she wants security. That’s why an early twenties woman who has decent character seems to be a good option for a Man in his early to mid 30s…less drama, low maintenance and they’ll look up to you if you’re a refined gentleman and connoisseur with connections.
 
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