"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If the girl is shy..

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Would it be hard to get her? Since she is shy and you will probably not get any of those signs that indicate she is interested in you. When i mean shy, i don't mean shy socially, but when it comes to subjects like these. Also what if at the same time she is a pessimist gaah i dont know what to do.

Just like what was mentioned in the
"Sign of High Interest Thread"

*Touching (Some girls will have such a high interest that they'll be scared to touch you. Other girls are well practiced at the Art of Flirting and will use touching easily. If a girl is touching you, and you know she doesn't do that normally, you can bet she's interested.)

How would u know its that instead of not interested??
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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To turn off the shy characteristic all you need is alcohol.
 

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So you are infatuated with a girl who is 'shy' because she doesn't show signs of interest in you but you figure that's because she's so shy according to the signs of high interest thread.

Do I need to spell it out to you any more clearly?
 

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Oops jsut read what i edited and realized it was confusing.

What i meant was:

How do i know if this girl like me if she is too shy to be a ble to do that OR maybe she has a ligh level of interest. Either way she just wont show signs by touching, so how would i know if shes itnerested or not.
 

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this vary's a lot from situation to situation, but one thing that's worked for me in the past....

Shy girls usually have a friend who's pretty outgoing. I don't know why, that's just how it's always been with shy girls i've known. These friends of theirs are usually trying to get their friend to stop being shy, and by befriending the outgoing friend, you can usually get her to tell you what's going on with her shy friend. This happened to me a couple times last year, and each time I just made friends with the outgoing one, adn she was more than happy to give me the 411 on the shy girl because she wanted her to meet guys and be more outgoing.

Just an idea.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yes she does have an outgoing friend, but i don't think i can do that since we don't get along very well.
 

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she only has 1 outgoing friend ? Come on man, work a little harder here : just watch who she's hanging out with, and anybody who's not afraid to talk to someone else would be a good enough outgoing friend.
 

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bull****

... i swear alot of the guys hear are either imature or *******s..
n e way to answer your question.

Yes shy girls are harder to get with. my last girlfriend was shy, conversation was difficult and she was afraid of just about everything and every social situation.

pluss.. shy girls rispond better to attention, they are not use to getting it. this means more to them, so complements work well, complements on her looks work well as well as long as your not kissing ass. also getting her to try new things.. she'll love you for it, another girlfriend of mine was afraid of rollercoasters, me and my friensds made her come.. she was like " if u let me escape i'll do anything you want" me being a dj knew that line was b.s, i didnt use force unlike the others i used charm and guilt got her to come on the ride.. she exprienced it for the first time and she gave me a big hug at the end... teach her something if you can.. something she normally wouldnt do.. the reason why shy girls have out going friends.. and good girls like bad boys is becuse.. there life has no action and there looking for some one to show them some action..

one more thing... be friends with her friends but dont let them controol you.. if u do kiss everything goodbye

your wellcome
 
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