You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Is this entirely true? Seems more like the constant drama she's thrown at you since the breakup is working.... Which is why you should have stopped all communication completely.Crissco said:Update: Im playing the Fox Return game with her.
I'm dissapointed... How many times have you told her in the last few days how mad you are? how disrespectful that event was? how you won't take her back; that it's over? (all things that are mistakes to even waste energy saying; but i realize you need to release your masculine anger in some way.)Crissco said:Me: What you did was really disrispectfull and I will never tollerate it again, I will only take u back if you do something really nice for me to prove you love me.
I know, I should of cut of all communication and stuck with my guns but I felt like playing games just like she did. After I played the returning fox game I felt like I won, because she was under my control, but in the end I didnt. I just dug my self deeper, I should of never texted her back to begin with.bukowski_merit said:Is this entirely true? Seems more like he constant drama at you since the breakup is working.... Which is why you should have stopped all communication completely.
If you're playing the fox return game - all this drama you're doing with the "im mad" and "this is over" - is dumb.
I'm dissapointed... How many times have you told her in the last few days how mad you are? how disrespectful that event was? how you won't take her back; that it's over?
If your intention was to go back to her - none of that stuff should have been said! Why? Because now your words to her look even more like they mean nothing.
She now knows that she can mind fvck you back into a relationship.
I'm not against taking the "you f'd up, im mad, and it's over" road - AS LONG AS YOU CAN STICK WITH IT. Even if you cancel on this plan and tell her you can't take her back even if she makes you something - she now see's you slowly wavering on your convictions towards her.
The only solution to this is to cease all communication with her! If you have to - turn your phone off for a few day, or get her blocked.
PS: Yes, i see your post above saying you're still going to keep this relationship ended, but you seem to be getting weaker on that.
PSS: YOU DO NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS WOMAN! EVER!!! She has psychological issues that go way deeper than anything any DJ theology can can handle.
He's been doing that for the past eight months and look where it has got him? :crackup:whosthat said:**** those *****es
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I know i know but i was pissed and wanted to fu*k with her lolperseverance said:He's been doing that for the past eight months and look where it has got him? :crackup:
Crissco, you should have held your frame, that was weak on your part bro!
I can relate to that man, it's never nice when a woman plugs your emotions or messes with your head, but instead of getting revenge, just pity the fool and move on.Crissco said:I know i know but i was pissed and wanted to fu*k with her lol