"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"If someone better came along, ide leave you"
- Thread starter Crissco
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
Is this entirely true? Seems more like the constant drama she's thrown at you since the breakup is working.... Which is why you should have stopped all communication completely.Crissco said:Update: Im playing the Fox Return game with her.
If you're playing the fox return game - all this drama you're doing with the "im mad" and "this is over" - is dumb.
I'm dissapointed... How many times have you told her in the last few days how mad you are? how disrespectful that event was? how you won't take her back; that it's over? (all things that are mistakes to even waste energy saying; but i realize you need to release your masculine anger in some way.)Crissco said:Me: What you did was really disrispectfull and I will never tollerate it again, I will only take u back if you do something really nice for me to prove you love me.
If your intention was to go back to her - none of that stuff should have been said! Why? Because now your words to her look even more like they mean nothing.
She now knows that she can mind fvck you back into a relationship.
I'm not against taking the "you f'd up, im mad, and it's over" road - AS LONG AS YOU CAN STICK WITH IT. Even if you cancel on this plan and tell her you can't take her back even if she makes you something - she now see's you slowly wavering on your convictions towards her.
The only solution to this is to cease all communication with her! If you have to - turn your phone off for a few day, or get her blocked.
PS: Yes, i see your post above saying you're still going to keep this relationship ended, but you seem to be getting weaker on that.
PSS: YOU DO NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS WOMAN! EVER!!! She has psychological issues that go way deeper than anything any DJ theology can can handle.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I know, I should of cut of all communication and stuck with my guns but I felt like playing games just like she did. After I played the returning fox game I felt like I won, because she was under my control, but in the end I didnt. I just dug my self deeper, I should of never texted her back to begin with.bukowski_merit said:Is this entirely true? Seems more like he constant drama at you since the breakup is working.... Which is why you should have stopped all communication completely.
If you're playing the fox return game - all this drama you're doing with the "im mad" and "this is over" - is dumb.
I'm dissapointed... How many times have you told her in the last few days how mad you are? how disrespectful that event was? how you won't take her back; that it's over?
If your intention was to go back to her - none of that stuff should have been said! Why? Because now your words to her look even more like they mean nothing.
She now knows that she can mind fvck you back into a relationship.
I'm not against taking the "you f'd up, im mad, and it's over" road - AS LONG AS YOU CAN STICK WITH IT. Even if you cancel on this plan and tell her you can't take her back even if she makes you something - she now see's you slowly wavering on your convictions towards her.
The only solution to this is to cease all communication with her! If you have to - turn your phone off for a few day, or get her blocked.
PS: Yes, i see your post above saying you're still going to keep this relationship ended, but you seem to be getting weaker on that.
PSS: YOU DO NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS WOMAN! EVER!!! She has psychological issues that go way deeper than anything any DJ theology can can handle.
In the end its a lesson learned and not worth the drama. I deleted her number completely, all her texts, everything.
Thanks everyone for the advice and help, dont know what I would of done without you guys.
perseverance
Guest
He's been doing that for the past eight months and look where it has got him? :crackup:whosthat said:**** those *****es
Crissco, you should have held your frame, that was weak on your part bro!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I know i know but i was pissed and wanted to fu*k with her lolperseverance said:He's been doing that for the past eight months and look where it has got him? :crackup:
Crissco, you should have held your frame, that was weak on your part bro!
perseverance
Guest
I can relate to that man, it's never nice when a woman plugs your emotions or messes with your head, but instead of getting revenge, just pity the fool and move on.Crissco said:I know i know but i was pissed and wanted to fu*k with her lol
This woman might be many things, she might be a really attractive, intelligent, down to earth woman, but ultimately she just causes far too much drama and you have to decide whether or not she's worth the drama. I'm inclined to feel that no matter how good a woman is, no amount of drama is worth it, so I don't go there.