guys I guess it's a situation you've been in at least once in your life. She flirts with other guys (alpha or beta) in front of you during a party, dinner, whatever. She seems not to bother if this annoys you or if it is disrespectful. Sometimes it seems that she doesn't care or doesn't get it but always throws the "I was just having fun" if you call her out on it. Funnily enough, I read recently an article about Bar refaeli (the supermodel) that got dumped by her bf who caught her flirting with Mick Jagger. think it's a lose-lose situation: if you call her out or get upset she will perceive you as weak and insecure, if you say nothing, she will persist in her disrespectful behaviour. What's the best strategy?
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If she flirts with other guys... what to do
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The question is not "what to do", the question is "what not to do".
What you should not do is put any effort, energy or emotional investment in a girl that not only does not find you attractive enough to feel threathed of being left alone but also does not respect you enough to avoid putting you in such position.
Do you think a girl which you can trust because she wants you and has a high consideration in you would feel the need to flirt with other guys in front of you, and even if, would she do it right in front of you with the certainess to know that you are gonna take it?
Unless we move in the mind games and tricks kingdom which is a land we should not bother to visit since it surrounds our lifes, its a clear sign that she isnt that attracted to you nor even respect you as a person or recognize any manliness in you.
Its a lose-lose situation if you try to make it run as much as a squared wheels chariot, its a draw situation if you lose the girl but save time and mental health for the future.
What you should not do is put any effort, energy or emotional investment in a girl that not only does not find you attractive enough to feel threathed of being left alone but also does not respect you enough to avoid putting you in such position.
Do you think a girl which you can trust because she wants you and has a high consideration in you would feel the need to flirt with other guys in front of you, and even if, would she do it right in front of you with the certainess to know that you are gonna take it?
Unless we move in the mind games and tricks kingdom which is a land we should not bother to visit since it surrounds our lifes, its a clear sign that she isnt that attracted to you nor even respect you as a person or recognize any manliness in you.
Its a lose-lose situation if you try to make it run as much as a squared wheels chariot, its a draw situation if you lose the girl but save time and mental health for the future.
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More than one woman for starters.
'Them' is way better than 'she'.
'Them' is way better than 'she'.
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Text or call another plate and if you can hook up, go do it.
If you can't get a hold of another plate, just leave anyway.
I dumped a girl once for this. We were in an LTR. The funny thing was we had just had sex in the parking lot of a bar. Came back in and she started dancing with these other guys in a manor that displeased me. So I left. Went with one of my other plates. Went NC for a week then dumped her.
She texted me and said "You are leaving me because of how I behaved at the bar last weekend aren't you? I am so sorry" I didn't answer, just made her always wonder. Figured maybe she will behave better for the next guy.... NOT!!!
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If you can't get a hold of another plate, just leave anyway.
I dumped a girl once for this. We were in an LTR. The funny thing was we had just had sex in the parking lot of a bar. Came back in and she started dancing with these other guys in a manor that displeased me. So I left. Went with one of my other plates. Went NC for a week then dumped her.
She texted me and said "You are leaving me because of how I behaved at the bar last weekend aren't you? I am so sorry" I didn't answer, just made her always wonder. Figured maybe she will behave better for the next guy.... NOT!!!
nnnnnnnn-n-n-n-n-nnnnnneeeeeeeext!!
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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This is quality advice. I would add, you should pay off any of her outstanding debt, even if that means you must go into debt. :rockon:PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Also, start wrapping your head around Bi-sexuality.. on your part.
Assuming she rewards you with sex, you will be intimately involved with another mans "left overs". :cheer:
Depends on how it makes you feel. About a year ago I'd say "dump the b*tch." However, in that year I've realized that I too am a big flirt. And it usually means nothing. Hell, I'll flirt with chicks I have no desire to bang. I just like to flirt. It makes me feel good and it's a mode of communication I understand and enjoy. Some people talk about work or sports or politics.. I flirt.
I'm not saying that any guy should date a big flirt, but often flirting is just an end in itself, not an intent to disrespect somebody or to seek out actual sex.
Having said that.. and this is probably hypocritical, but what the hell.. I don't think I'd date a chick who was a big flirt, even though I am one myself.
I'm not saying that any guy should date a big flirt, but often flirting is just an end in itself, not an intent to disrespect somebody or to seek out actual sex.
Having said that.. and this is probably hypocritical, but what the hell.. I don't think I'd date a chick who was a big flirt, even though I am one myself.
Always a crappy situation to be in .
Just say goodbye. If she is really into you she will beg you and ask for a chance.
Then you lay the foundation of a real relationship.
It's a win win. She will se you are able to walk away anytime and respect you more if the relationship move forward .
Just say goodbye. If she is really into you she will beg you and ask for a chance.
Then you lay the foundation of a real relationship.
It's a win win. She will se you are able to walk away anytime and respect you more if the relationship move forward .
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
my guess is that she's aware that she's disrespecting you, she know that such behaviour will push you away but at that point it's not a big deal for her, she is not that attracted to you. I can't believe that girls do not know that they're risking to upset you and lose you ... unless you picked up a completely dumb chick. Even in logicallefty story she realised (after NC) that her behaviour wasn't acceptable.
Overall I'd say that it's a big red flag, no matter what you do, no point to get angry or upset, just implement NC; not sure you can lay any foundation of something robust once a thing like that happens if she come's back. How can you trust her again?
@logicallylefty: have you had further interactions with her?
Overall I'd say that it's a big red flag, no matter what you do, no point to get angry or upset, just implement NC; not sure you can lay any foundation of something robust once a thing like that happens if she come's back. How can you trust her again?
@logicallylefty: have you had further interactions with her?