"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If I'm *not* getting sore...

snintel

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Quick question here which may be a dumb one.

After my first week of working out, I was incredibly sore. So much so that I could barely move my arms enough to take off my shirt/wash my face/etc.

But the 2nd, 3rd, 4th weeks so far, I don't even get sore. I'm doing my sets to failure.

My question is, if I don't feel soreness, have my muscles "torn" at all? Or am I just recovering faster, or what? :confused:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Soreness is not the goal

IF you are getting stronger, lifting more weight or doing the same weight for more reps, then you are making progress.

Soreness is incidental.
 

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Easy. Just add more weight.

The general rule is: If you can do more 4-8 reps per set with that weight, it isn't heavy enough.
 

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Originally posted by snintel
Quick question here which may be a dumb one.

After my first week of working out, I was incredibly sore. So much so that I could barely move my arms enough to take off my shirt/wash my face/etc.

But the 2nd, 3rd, 4th weeks so far, I don't even get sore. I'm doing my sets to failure.

My question is, if I don't feel soreness, have my muscles "torn" at all? Or am I just recovering faster, or what? :confused:
soreness has many factors

but the number one reason you get sore after a time of not working out, is because your muscles arent used to that pump of blood that expands the sarcoplasm. If you get sore its usually because a better than usual pump, but there are many other factors like changed nutrition (often for the worse) sleep patterns, etc.
 

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Soreness is not a reliable indicator of progress, but you can't really expect to deadlift 500 for 10 and NOT feel like a truck's hit your back the next day.

As long as you constantly progress in good form then don't sweat the soreness (or lack thereof).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by snintel
Quick question here which may be a dumb one.

After my first week of working out, I was incredibly sore. So much so that I could barely move my arms enough to take off my shirt/wash my face/etc.

But the 2nd, 3rd, 4th weeks so far, I don't even get sore. I'm doing my sets to failure.

My question is, if I don't feel soreness, have my muscles "torn" at all? Or am I just recovering faster, or what? :confused:
as other people have said, sorness cant be used to judge. what you described happens to alot of people... they start out and get super sore the first week or two, but then dont get sore much after that. Im pretty sure its normal.
 

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hmmm, soreness is DOMS isnt it. DOMS doesnt really indicate if your work out has been good or not. I judge my work outs by how much hypertrhophy is achieved or failure. I try to get as much blood in that muscle as possible

peace

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